Everyone in an intimate relationship should constantly be working towards a stronger relationship. If you are not doing something to make your relationship stronger, then you are likely doing something to make your relationship weaker. The fact is that relationships require constant maintenance to stay in working order. The following ten tips all work to help boost the emotional and physical intimacy you have, which creates a stronger bond that results in a healthier and stronger relationship.
1. Express Your Love
Sounds simple, but a lot of people forget to express their love to each other. I’m not just talking about saying ‘I love you,’ because that can get old and meaningless very quickly. I’m talking about doing things that show how much you love your partner and your relationship with them. When your words and actions align, then your partner will feel loved, which will help contribute to its strength.
Expressing love can be as simple as listening to your partner when they need to talk, but there are thousands of other things you can do in your day to show them how much they mean to you. For instance, you can:
– Have patience and be kind to them during times of struggle.
– Support them in their ventures or plans in life.
– Let them be who they are without criticizing them or trying to change them.
– Help ease their stress and struggle in life in whatever way you can.
– Remind them why you love them as they perform tasks that you appreciate.
– Surprise them with something they will love, just because you can.
I’m sure you can think of different ways to express your love to your partner. I highly recommend doing at least one thing a day. Making it a habit will help you always remember how much you love them and remind them how much you love them.
2. Treat Them As You Want To Be Treated
This is a rule for relationships that not many people follow. They do things to their loved ones that they would never want to be done to them, yet they can’t understand why their relationship is suffering.
It takes some practice to see clearly what you are doing that you wouldn’t want to be done to you. But once you open up your awareness, you will always be able to see those unwanted words, actions, and behaviors that you may not be aware of right now.
To open up your awareness right now, get clear on what you don’t want done to you. Write your thoughts down, decide if you are doing those things to your partner, and find some solutions to stop doing them if you are.
For instance, you may not want to be put down in your relationship. That’s a good expectation to have for yourself. Now, ask yourself if you are putting down your partner at all? If you are, how can you stop doing that? How can you be more supportive? The next time you find yourself starting to put your partner down, you will remember what you decided to do instead and, hopefully, take action on that.
A strong relationship comes from mutual respect. That’s why this rule works so well. You want to be treated with respect, and so does your partner. As long as you treat them the way you want to be treated, you will both feel valued in the relationship.
3. Create More Quality Time
Do you sit down and have supper together? Do you sit down and talk for hours about things that mean something to you? Do you go out and experience new things together? If not, then you are weakening your relationship in a big way.
Quality time is all about giving your partner your undivided attention. It’s not about sitting beside each other on the couch and watching TV. It’s about interacting, having fun, and strengthening the connection you have together.
Everyone can create more quality time in their relationship. It may mean giving up a few hours of TV a night or doing an activity together instead of apart, but if you make developing a stronger relationship your intention, then you will make quality time a priority and make the time.
4. Use Tools To Create A Stronger Relationship
Always remember that a relationship requires constant work. It’s never something you can put on the backburner for years expecting it to stay healthy and fine. People change week by week, month by month, and year by year, which means you need to reconnect consistently and reintroduce yourselves to each other. If you don’t, you may just wake up to a stranger one day!
Books, eBooks, online courses, relationship counselors, and relationship retreats are all tools that can help you create a stronger relationship. They can teach you new ways to communicate and relate, and they will contribute to a stronger relationship because your focus is solely on each other and improving the dynamics between you.
5. Be Kind To Yourself
I have a friend who hates herself. Or, at least she seems to. She is constantly calling herself fat, stupid, and annoying. She says these things in a million different ways, and she says them all the time. I have never heard her not put herself down. And her fiance is sick of it. Their relationship is struggling because she always puts herself down and he always needs to counteract her negativity with a positive comment. If he doesn’t, then she gets even more upset. In short, they can’t enjoy their time together because she’s always complaining about herself and he’s always trying to boost her up.
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