Whether you know it or not, you have a ton of habits in your life. They are affecting everything from how happy you are to how much you earn.
We tend to look at habits as little things, such as what we eat for breakfast or the route we habitually take home. But there are so many different habits in our life that we forget that they end up contributing to bigger things that affect our lives in a very negative or very positive way.
The good news is that a bad habit can be dropped, and a good habit can be developed in its place. The bad news is that most people don’t recognize that some of their worst habits are making them into someone they don’t want to be. They just think it is a part of who they are, and that they are destined to be as they are for the rest of their life.
The bottom line is that your little habits are defining who you are. If your life isn’t going the way you want it to, then it’s time to admit some hard truths about the power of habit and the negative effect it is having on your life.
1. Laziness is A Habit
Do you feel like you are not getting anything done with your life? As if you are wasting time? Not doing what you need to do is not something you can’t blame on anything other than your poor habits, such as procrastination, negative thinking, and engaging in things that don’t serve your life well. This applies to people in their personal lives and professional lives, and it applies to businesses that are unwilling to do the work and take the action required to create a strong and successful business.
There are plenty of people who go from morning to night not being lazy. I’m talking about young and old, female and male, healthy and unhealthy. People who get things done habitually do what they need to do until they actually get tired. And when they get tired, they go to sleep!
When it comes to business, the best businesses are in the habit of going the extra mile regarding customer service, while the worst businesses are lazy with their customer service and ignore requests or do the bare minimum to get by.
Lazy people are in the habit of avoiding what they need to do and excusing (habit) their behavior by blaming (habit) things, people, and circumstances. They would rather put off stuff and do nothing important than get busy taking action on what needs to be done. And, the more excuses they make, the more they convince themselves to do nothing, and the less they feel like doing anything.
If you want to see the negative effects of the power of habit, then watch a lazy person. Their life passes them by as they make excuse after excuse and never really get anything done. Their health, career, relationships, and happiness fall apart because they are in the habit of not doing the real work to get the results they want.
The habit of laziness can be changed, though. All it takes is getting up and doing what needs to be done. It requires not making any more excuses about anything. It requires talking positively to yourself about your goals and desires in life and what you are capable of.
2. Not Thinking Things Through Is A Habit
Do you make a lot of dumb decisions? You are probably not dumb. You are probably just in the habit of not thinking things through.
Sometimes it’s important to act off impulse, but usually thinking things through helps you look at things from different perspectives and find answers. Sometimes you just know the answer, through intuition, but sometimes you are not sure whether to do something, meet someone, or take some sort of action. When that happens, you can either make a quick decision without the facts or more information, or you can wait and see what happens to give you a clearer vision of what you should do.
I have a friend who is the habit of telling people off based on limited information. For instance, she won’t hear back from someone online for a few hours, and instead of thinking about the possibilities, such as the person being busy or looking for a solution to her request, she will quickly send them a message telling them how horrible they are for not responding to her. She assumes (habit) that they are ignoring her. Usually, they respond to her and let her know exactly why they didn’t immediately respond, and then she feels bad for being so rude.
The old saying ‘I’ll sleep on it’ is a wise saying that can help you get out of the habit of not thinking things through. It should become a habit that you use when you feel like doing some erratic or something based on little information. It should be used when you feel emotional and are unable to look at things clearly. And it should be used when you are unsure of which direction you should go.
3. Being A Victim Is A Habit
If you are feeling like a victim in life, then you are in the habit of being a victim. You are doing things that keep you in victim status. You are saying things that make you feel like a victim and act like a victim. You are attracting people and circumstances into your life that validate your belief that you are a victim. In short, your habitual way of talking to yourself, interacting with others, and perceiving the world around you is keeping you stuck in a victim mentality.
You don’t have to be a victim in life. There have been people who have gone through horrible things in life, and they do not act like victims. They know that how they habitually think and talk, as well as how they perceive the world is important, so they are in the habit of thinking positively, talking positively, and viewing the world in a positive way. They don’t hold on to what happened to them and let it define them. They take responsibility for their mindset and behavior in the moment knowing that other people and circumstances are not in control of their life, they are.
That’s how to let go of the habit of being a victim. Recognize that no one else and nothing else can control how you behave, think, and react. You are in complete control of those things and, therefore, you are in complete control of what happens to you.
I have a friend who was in an abusive relationship for years. For over a decade she complained (habit) about her husband and how horrible she was. She cried about how pathetic her life was and how unhappy she was, but she never took responsibility for it (habit). She always blamed (habit) him, religion, her mother, and anything else she could point her finger at. All of these little habits created a big habit of being a victim, and she got off on complaining and crying and having people see how pathetic her life had become. Once she decided to take control of her life, she got into the habit of doing just that! She took responsibility for her actions and her reactions. She took responsibility for what happened to her on a day to day basis. She stood up for herself. And, she left the relationship and created a life full of happiness.
4. Saying Yes When You Want To Say No Is a Habit
Do other people have some sort of hold over you and your decisions? Do they make you do things you don’t want to do? No, they don’t. Your habit of saying yes when you really want to say no is what makes you do things for them that you don’t want to do.
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