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I used to think that wanting abundance was a bad thing. I don’t think I’m alone. I think many of us have grown up being taught that we shouldn’t want it all. We shouldn’t want more than we need because there are others out there who don’t even get the bare minimum of what they need. But, the fact is that increasing abundance is good for you and the world around you. It makes life better, and it gives you the ability to help other people have a better life too. It’s not a bad thing. It’s something that we should all be striving for.
Abundance simply means a large quantity of something. While financial abundance is most talked about, you can have abundance in life without having a ton of money. You can have abundance in your spirituality, health, relationships, and happiness. You can feel like you have more than you need in any or all of those areas. It all depends on what makes you feel most abundant in life.
Sounds good, right? But, how do you increase the abundance in your life? How do you move past the plateau of where you are and get more of everything you want?
I’ve learned that it’s really not that hard. It just takes a change in mindset and a little work. Following are 5 big tips for increasing your abundance that you can start working on today.
1. Get Rid Of The Doubt Around Abundance
When it comes to increasing abundance, this is really important! If you doubt that you can be more abundant, in any area of your life, it will affect your ability to do what you need to do to become more abundant in every area of your life.
For instance, if you don’t think that you can make more money because you are working at a job where you can’t increase your pay, then you are not going to look for different ways to increase your income and experience more financial abundance in your life. That will take a hit on your self-worth, and that will affect your ability to get abundance in health, relationships, and every area of your life.
Doubt comes from the influences and experiences you have had in your life. Your parents may not believe that true love is real, for example, so you doubt that it is real too and limit yourself when it comes to love. Or, maybe you’ve tried to make more money but failed at doing so, and now you doubt that it is even possible to make more money.
Doubt also comes from calculating reality based on what you think you know. For example, if you think that someone in your job can only make a certain amount of money per year, then you are crunching what you think are real numbers for yourself, and that can confirm your doubt. You need to forget what makes sense. You have to be willing to believe that reality is flexible depending on what you are willing to do.
Once you get rid of the doubt that you can have abundance, you will open up your awareness and find ways to increase it. You’ll stop letting your doubts keep you from seeing what is possible.
I suggest looking around and seeing how much abundance there really is around you. There are a ton of different ways to increase your income, relationships, health, and happiness in life. There are a ton of different people currently increasing their abundance because they don’t doubt that it is possible. Open up your eyes to the possibilities and let it get you excited.
And if that doubt starts to creep back in again, remember that there is always something you can do to get more of what you want into your life. It’s always there, whether you want to believe it or not.
2. Overcome The Fear Of Change
Fear will hold you back from bringing more abundance into your life. Mostly the fear of change. Having to do something that is outside of your comfort zone is scary, and it can keep you from doing what you need to do to bring more abundance into your life.
I have a friend who worked at a hospital for many years of his life. His job was not something he enjoyed. He worked in housekeeping. Many of the older housekeepers hated their job too, but they had lived in fear so long that they never tried to do anything to increase their abundance and get out of their job. Even though they hated what they were doing, they were comfortable doing it, and so they never applied for different jobs, branched out into their own business, or took any opportunities that came their way. My friend felt the fear of leaving the comfort of his job at the hospital, but his desire for abundance helped him push past it. He branched out, started his own small cleaning company with a few clients from the hospital, and now he runs a full-time business, where other people are doing the cleaning, that brings him in more money than he could ever need.
When you can overcome the fear, you can do things that promote change. You can take a hold of the opportunities that come your way and see where they take you. And you can make your own opportunities. All of that will contribute to increasing abundance in your life.
3. Only Listen To One Person In Your Life
There is only one person in your life who can help you make the choices and take the action need to increase abundance, and that’s you.
You must stop listening to what your family tells you is or is not possible.
It’s no secret that everyone has a slightly different definition of what success is supposed to look like. Some people define success as having lots of money in the bank and being able to buy a big house and take vacations at a moment’s notice. Some people define success as having a big and loving family that is always there to support them. Some people define success as waking up in the morning and being able to live another day. And some people have no idea what their definition of success looks like.
If you are struggling to figure out how you define success, or if you are looking to find some success in your life but don’t really know what that means to you, I know how you feel. I spent years defining success as being rich, so I worked for years at a job I hated only to feel really unsuccessful in life because I was so miserable.
It wasn’t until I started paying attention to successful people and how they approached success that I branched out into writing – which I love to do – and started to develop my own definition of success. Following are some quotes from successful people that talk about success and the path to it. These people may help you figure out what success really means to you, but if they don’t, keep listening to the people who know what their definition of success is to help you figure out what yours is.
1. Happiness Doesn’t Follow Success
“Success is getting what you want. Happiness is wanting what you get.” – Dale Carnegie
A lot of people think that happy people are successful people. In other words, they think that when you become successful, you automatically become happy. But this isn’t true.
Success is defined as accomplishing an aim or goal you have. It’s about achieving something that you want. As anyone who has achieved a goal knows, happiness and success are not only not the same thing. They just don’t always go together. If you are not happy when you achieve success, then you won’t be happy because of it because happiness comes from within.
A friend of mine worked at a hospital for years that was located downtown in his city. They regularly had homeless people come in for shelter and to get medical care from the emergency room. He said that contrary to belief, a lot of the homeless people were not miserable. Yes, some were. But there were also some who were happy despite their situation. They would laugh and make jokes. They felt good about themselves. He said their happiness compared to the staff he was surrounded by, including very successful doctors, was evident.
You can have a successful career or family but not be happy. It doesn’t mean you are not a success. It just means you are not happy.
I know a lot of people are not happy right now. If you believe you are not successful because you have not found happiness yet, don’t set more goals to try and find happiness. Work on finding happiness where you are now. I guarantee that once you find happiness, you will start to see more success in your life everywhere.
2. Success Happens Right Now
“Success is simple. Do what’s right, the right way, at the right time.” – Arnold H. Glasow
Everything you do right now leads to your success. In fact, if you are taking daily action on your goals, I would go further and say that everything you do right now is a success. Every action you take is a small step towards the life you want.
This quote makes success seem really simple. All you have to do is do what’s right and do it in the right way and time. While that may seem complicated, it is much easier than it sounds. All you have to do is start being present and following your inner guidance. That’s where all the right answers are. I have always found that doing what you ‘know’ is in line with what you want will help you get to your success faster than doing what you think you should do or what you have been told to do by someone else. The right choice is always clear when you pay attention to your inner truth. And, the best outcomes, both failures, and successes, come from being true to who you are.
The trick is to start being more present in your life. Stop living in the past or the future and start focusing on this moment and the task at hand. You can’t listen to your inner self unless you are fully present. So stop stressing out about the success that seems far away, and pay attention to what you are being told to do at this moment. Then do it!
3. Success Comes To Those Who Enjoy What They Are Doing
“I’m doing what I enjoy doing.” – Stan Lee when asked how he keeps the successful creative juices flowing over the years
There is no doubt that Stan Lee is a success. And there is no doubt that he has always enjoyed what he’s been doing. This is such a simple thought, yet so true. If you enjoy what you are doing, you are already successful. But doing something that you enjoy is a dream that most people don’t ever get to live.
How many happy and successful people have you met who don’t enjoy what they are doing? They can’t just be successful; they have to be really happy too! The chances are good that you haven’t met any.
When you are doing what you enjoy doing, you can get into the flow of life. You can do what needs to be done. You can push yourself. You can tackle obstacles that come your way with creativity. And you have fun every step of the way. When you start to see your accomplishments come to life in this state, you get excited and start working towards even more accomplishments, despite your age (think Stan Lee, Betty White, or Hugh Hefner), how much you’ve already done, or any other thing that other people might consider a barrier to more success. That is definitely how I would define success.
4. Success Is A Mindset
“Success is walking from failure to failure with no loss of enthusiasm.” – Winston Churchill
I think that one of the big goals in everyone’s life should be to become smarter every day. Unfortunately, not a lot of people include it as one of their goals.
The very fact that you are here reading an article on how to become smarter each day separates you from the crowd. Most people are stuck in a rut where they are unwilling or unable to learn more. You just have to look at some of your closest friends and family to see that this is true. Many people just don’t care about becoming smarter. But, they should.
The more you know, the happier you will be. Ignorance is not bliss. Information helps you understand yourself and the world around you on a deeper level, and that gives you the insight and the tools to make better decisions for yourself that align with what you want and need in life to feel secure, fulfilled, and accomplished.
Becoming smarter is not an all or nothing thing. When it comes to intelligence, time is the key. So, don’t rush it! Appreciate each day and your new chance to become smarter.
8 Huge Tips On How To Become Smarter Every Day
Following are some unique things to think about when it comes to growing your knowledge. Some you may have thought of while others you have probably never related to knowledge and insight. But, they are all equally important. If you can live by the following tips each day, you can open up your ability to become smarter.
1. Forgive Others And Yourself
When you want to become smarter, forgiveness is key. Why? When you are occupying your mind with past hurts and problems, you are doing your mind a disservice. There are two main reasons why.
First, you are occupying too much of your day focusing on the past, which is taking away from your time to learn and grow in the present.
This seems simple, but when you think about the fact that you only have 1440 minutes per day, and many of those are spent sleeping, then you become aware of how little time you have to do something productive with your day.
There is no statistic that can tell you how much time the average human wastes focusing on past grudges per day, but through my interactions and observations with other people and myself, I know that it can take up a lot of time – if not the whole day. Don’t chance even a minute to past issues. Forgive and look forward, not back.
Second, if you are holding on to grudges, you will feel angrier and less hopeful than if you were to let them go. That will affect your willingness to learn more. It will also affect your perception in a big way.
For instance, if you are angry at your ex for breaking up with you, and you are trying to learn how to have a better relationship in the future, then you may get mad at the things you learn and perceive them as stupid rather than helpful. In short, you will shut out the helpful information and not become any smarter around the topic.
2. Focus On Understanding
There is a quote I heard once that said ‘You never know the truth. You know ‘a’ truth.’ If you want to become smarter each day, then remember this quote. There are different variations of the truth out there besides yours, and some can help you grow and become wiser about yourself and things around you.
The dumbest people are unwilling to focus on the information they receive with the intent to understand. Instead, they are focused on the information with the intent to reply.
For example, a woman on Dr. Phil the other day spent all of her time coming up with excuses and replies to what was being said and never took in the helpful words she was receiving from the people around her. She didn’t grow smarter because of the situation. She didn’t grow at all.
When you stop focusing on what you want to say and just listen, you are able to learn more. Therefore, focus on what people are saying to you, not what you want to say. Focus on the information you are reading or hearing, not what your beliefs tell you that you should feel or think. Keep an open mind in every situation and always have the intent to learn. This will guarantee that you will become smarter each day.
3. Go At Your Own Pace
If you get caught up in how much you know and how far you are behind someone else, you will stunt your own learning through anxiety, despair, worry, and all those other negative emotions that stop your ability to stay open and understand what is going on around you.
For example, I took a sign language course in college years ago. I was in a class where many of the students had deaf people in their family or as friends, and it seemed like they were learning at a pace I just couldn’t catch up to. Because immersion into the deaf community was part of the curriculum, we were constantly having to use sign language in order to speak to one another, and I was embarrassed at how much less I knew than other people. That embarrassment held me back from learning the things I needed to know in order to progress. I was so focused on what I lacked that I couldn’t allow myself to learn what I needed to learn.
Don’t be insecure with how fast or slow you are learning compared to other people. It’s not a race. Everyone learns at different speeds, but with effort, everyone learns. You will get to where they are, and you may even surpass them if they are not willing to be patient and go at their own pace like you are.
4. Embrace Your Style Of Learning
This is a huge tip on how to become smarter. The best teachers understand that everyone has different styles of learning. If you really want to actively learn something new each day, then you need to embrace your style of learning and use it to your advantage.
Everyone in an intimate relationship should constantly be working towards a stronger relationship. If you are not doing something to make your relationship stronger, then you are likely doing something to make your relationship weaker. The fact is that relationships require constant maintenance to stay in working order. The following ten tips all work to help boost the emotional and physical intimacy you have, which creates a stronger bond that results in a healthier and stronger relationship.
1. Express Your Love
Sounds simple, but a lot of people forget to express their love to each other. I’m not just talking about saying ‘I love you,’ because that can get old and meaningless very quickly. I’m talking about doing things that show how much you love your partner and your relationship with them. When your words and actions align, then your partner will feel loved, which will help contribute to its strength.
Expressing love can be as simple as listening to your partner when they need to talk, but there are thousands of other things you can do in your day to show them how much they mean to you. For instance, you can:
– Have patience and be kind to them during times of struggle.
– Support them in their ventures or plans in life.
– Let them be who they are without criticizing them or trying to change them.
– Help ease their stress and struggle in life in whatever way you can.
– Remind them why you love them as they perform tasks that you appreciate.
– Surprise them with something they will love, just because you can.
I’m sure you can think of different ways to express your love to your partner. I highly recommend doing at least one thing a day. Making it a habit will help you always remember how much you love them and remind them how much you love them.
2. Treat Them As You Want To Be Treated
This is a rule for relationships that not many people follow. They do things to their loved ones that they would never want to be done to them, yet they can’t understand why their relationship is suffering.
It takes some practice to see clearly what you are doing that you wouldn’t want to be done to you. But once you open up your awareness, you will always be able to see those unwanted words, actions, and behaviors that you may not be aware of right now.
To open up your awareness right now, get clear on what you don’t want done to you. Write your thoughts down, decide if you are doing those things to your partner, and find some solutions to stop doing them if you are.
For instance, you may not want to be put down in your relationship. That’s a good expectation to have for yourself. Now, ask yourself if you are putting down your partner at all? If you are, how can you stop doing that? How can you be more supportive? The next time you find yourself starting to put your partner down, you will remember what you decided to do instead and, hopefully, take action on that.
A strong relationship comes from mutual respect. That’s why this rule works so well. You want to be treated with respect, and so does your partner. As long as you treat them the way you want to be treated, you will both feel valued in the relationship.
3. Create More Quality Time
Do you sit down and have supper together? Do you sit down and talk for hours about things that mean something to you? Do you go out and experience new things together? If not, then you are weakening your relationship in a big way.
Quality time is all about giving your partner your undivided attention. It’s not about sitting beside each other on the couch and watching TV. It’s about interacting, having fun, and strengthening the connection you have together.
Everyone can create more quality time in their relationship. It may mean giving up a few hours of TV a night or doing an activity together instead of apart, but if you make developing a stronger relationship your intention, then you will make quality time a priority and make the time.
4. Use Tools To Create A Stronger Relationship
Always remember that a relationship requires constant work. It’s never something you can put on the backburner for years expecting it to stay healthy and fine. People change week by week, month by month, and year by year, which means you need to reconnect consistently and reintroduce yourselves to each other. If you don’t, you may just wake up to a stranger one day!
Books, eBooks, online courses, relationship counselors, and relationship retreats are all tools that can help you create a stronger relationship. They can teach you new ways to communicate and relate, and they will contribute to a stronger relationship because your focus is solely on each other and improving the dynamics between you.
5. Be Kind To Yourself
I have a friend who hates herself. Or, at least she seems to. She is constantly calling herself fat, stupid, and annoying. She says these things in a million different ways, and she says them all the time. I have never heard her not put herself down. And her fiance is sick of it. Their relationship is struggling because she always puts herself down and he always needs to counteract her negativity with a positive comment. If he doesn’t, then she gets even more upset. In short, they can’t enjoy their time together because she’s always complaining about herself and he’s always trying to boost her up.
We all know many people who have ignored their heart in life. Their heart was telling them to date a certain person, go after a certain job, or live a certain life, but instead of listening to their heart, they ignored it and did something easier or more expected of them. These people have regrets, and they will tell you about them often. It’s a lesson for all of us who want to listen to our hearts but are debating whether we really should or not.
However, there is also a group of people who have listened to their hearts and have found themselves in a place of struggle or anxiety. Their hearts have led them to do things that have gotten them in trouble. They wished they hadn’t followed their hearts in some cases, and it can scare the crap out of us when it comes to deciding whether to listen to our hearts.
What Does It Mean To Listen To Your Heart?
“Your visions will become clear only when you can look into your own heart. Who looks outside, dreams; who looks inside, awakes.” -� C.G. Jung
To listen to your heart means to listen to your intuition – your gut feeling about your life. Obviously, your heart can tell when you are nervous or excited by beating faster or skipping a beat, but beyond that, it doesn’t quite send you messages. Your intuition is often considered the sixth sense – a psychic knowledge or understanding.
According to the science behind intuition, it comes from our subconscious, a place of instinct where we automatically know what is right. That’s just another reason to listen to your heart. Sometimes it knows something you can’t clearly see in your conscious mind.
One cancer researcher said that almost every cancer survivor he studied had listened to their heart when it came to treatment. They let their intuition guide them in their choices, and they survived something that could have easily taken them down if they had followed what other people wanted them to do.
Two Big Benefits Of Listening To Your Heart
If you are not convinced that you should listen to your heart, then following are some undeniable benefits of doing so.
1. You Will Follow Your Truth Path
When you are fully in tune with your heart when it comes to decisions, you will make choices based on your true path in life, not on what you think you should be doing or what others want you to do. Sometimes this path may be completely off course from the normal way of life.
For instance, Shay Butler is a vlogger who followed his heart when it came to vlogging. He knew that there was something in it for him, but it was at a time when most people believed you couldn’t make really good money from making videos on the Internet. He had three kids, and people around his didn’t believe in his vision like he did. But he pursued vlogging in a big way. Less than a decade later, he is a millionaire because of it. Now he lives in a place he loves, has two more kids, and gets to really follow his heart because he has the freedom and money to take the short route to what he wants.
2. No Regrets
One of the biggest regrets of the dying is that they didn’t live life on their terms, or, in other words, they didn’t follow their heart. You do not want to reach the end of your life and feel like you wasted it. The pain of that will be a lot, and when you know that your years are numbered, you won’t be able to stay present because you will always be looking back at the time wasted.
In short, you will not actually get to live your life. Instead, you will just exist. You will be someone who was here and breathed, but you will not be someone who found meaning in life, lived out your passions, and experienced everything that life had to throw at you.
Do you really want to live a life full of regrets? I would guess, even without knowing you, that you don’t.
When Should You Use Caution When You Listen To Your Heart?
It would be nice if we could all just listen to heart and throw caution to the wind, but the fact is that our choices in life lead to results that can affect us positively or negatively, and we have to be aware enough to see when our choices have the potential of leading to negative outcomes.
There are some articles that list off thousands of useless things to do when bored, but they are mostly a waste of time. I’m talking about suggestions that may actually make you dumber after you do them and literally take away time that you can’t get back. Moreover, a lot of the suggestions won’t help you stop being bored. If they don’t actually draw your attention, they will just make you more bored and frustrated at the same time.
If you are bored, it just means that you are doing something that lacks meaning to you. For instance, some people can watch TV all day and not get bored because they love their TV so much, but other people find TV meaningless and would find themselves feeling bored after a few hours of trying to binge watch a show on Netflix.
Therefore, you have to do something that has some meaning. Something that engages you and brings you into the flow where you feel content and happy. When you get into the flow, which simply means doing something that requires your attention and keeps you fully engaged, you will never be bored. And, when you are doing something that keeps you fully engaged, it is always adding to your life in some way.
1. Grab A Pen And Paper And Write
There are a thousand different things you can do that involve a pen and paper, and they can all help you get into a flow that relieves boredom and leads to many different others things.
For example, you can engage in free association writing. This is something that writers often use for writer’s block, but I’ve found that it also helps me find hidden desires and issues that I’m having, which leads to me acting out on those desires or fixing the issues in some way.
The technique of free association was founded by Sigmund Freud. He would let his patients talk and talk and talk so that they could work through their own issues rather than being led towards the issues of other people by suggesting his own theories.
Instead of talking, you can write. Write whatever comes to mind, even if it doesn’t make any sense. Write and write and write until you write something that makes you stop and think about what you wrote. And it will happen!
Some people believe that someone else is talking to them as they come up with words and ideas that they didn’t even know they had. Others believe that it is simply a technique that helps you access your subconscious mind that you don’t normally have access to. Either way, you will find yourself discovering new thoughts that may lead you towards doing something that puts you in the flow and helps relieve your boredom.
If you don’t feel like free association writing, then you can do other things, such as:
– Write in a diary about your previous day, current thoughts, concerns, hopes, dreams, etc. You will uncover many things to think about and do simply by tapping into how you are feeling and what you want.
– Write a letter to a close friend or family member and share things that you might otherwise not share with them in person. You don’t have to send it to them; although you can. But, this will just help you put your focus on things that matter to you and help you stop feeling bored. Plus, you may uncover some things in your relationships that need attention.
– Write a letter to a deceased close friend or family member and tell them everything you wish you could have said while they were alive. This is a great way to connect with your spiritual side, and it will often lead you towards the realization that you are alive and help you appreciate that fact, which will help you stop feeling bored and start feeling grateful.
– Write down some goals you have, or try to find some goals to put in place if you have none. Once you write down your goals, get serious about figuring out exactly what steps you need to take to reach them and write them down in great detail. This has led me to hours of exploring what I want and coming up with actionable steps to get there, and it is a great way to make sure you are constantly doing things in your day that have meaning, which means boredom will become a thing of the past in the future!
– Write down a to-do list for the day to break up your boredom. We all know the power of a to-do list. It can get us up and moving even when we don’t feel like doing anything because it is a list of things we must do! Decide what you must do, write it down, and then force yourself to do what’s on the list. Soon, you will be engaged in activities that you need to do to make the most of your day, and you will no longer feel any sense of boredom.
2. People Watch
This is one of the easiest things to do when bored. Other people are fascinating, and watching them can help you discover truths about yourself, your beliefs, your desires, you likes, your dislikes, and a ton of other things.
Plus, it is not hard to get out, and people watch. All you have to do is drag yourself out of your house and go to a park, coffee shop, or busy street, and sit down. Then just turn your eyes towards others and open up your ears, and let other people into your awareness for a while.
When you put all of your attention on other people and what they are doing, you will forget that you are bored. Moreover, you remind yourself that there are other people in this world, which is something that we forget as we go about our daily lives focusing on us, our needs, and our unhappiness.
At the very least, people watching will help you get out of your head for a while, realize how much you like your privacy, and give you the ability go home appreciating the little things that you can do without a lot of people around you.
3. Take A Nap
If you really don’t want to do anything, or can’t decide on one thing to do, then take a nap. While it may feel like a waste of time, it’s actually a really productive thing to do. Even Google employees are allowed to take naps in ‘nap pods’ which help them regroup and get their energy back in focus.
Do you feel stuck? Do you feel like you are failing in life? Do you feel like you are not getting the things done that matter and you are living one wasted day after another? It can sound dramatic, but when you feel like you are wasting time – precious moments out of your allotted time on this planet, it is an extremely painful feeling that causes anxiety and depression. There are some things to remember to help you feel better during these times. In fact, I guarantee that once you commit these to your memory and start to incorporate them into your beliefs, you will no longer feel like you are wasting your days away.
1. Tomorrow Is A New Day
To help reduce anxiety and depression over a wasted day, week month, or life, one of the best things to remember is that no matter what has happened, tomorrow is a new day. You can start doing what you want to do. You can make it more meaningful and full. You can recreate your life tomorrow if you want!
I want to stress that this is true for everyone, regardless of their life or age. For instance, at the age of 87, Charles Eugster realized that this body was deteriorating. Like most people his age, he felt old. But, instead of letting the rest of his life pass him by in a deteriorating state, he went to the gym and rebuilt his body from scratch! Now he is 96-years-old, and he is considered the fittest senior citizen on the planet by some. Moreover, he has a full life of speaking, writing, and even fashion designing!
2. You Can Force Yourself To Do Things You Don’t Want To
The chances are good that a lot of things you want to do are hard so you would rather not do them as much as you feel they would benefit your life. In that case, excuses are easy to make, and you go about your day knowing you should do whatever it is, but find it easier not to.
The good news is that you can force yourself to do things you don’t want to do. You do it all the time! You talk to someone you don’t want to talk to. You go somewhere you don’t want to go. You do something for someone else that you would rather not do. You are really good at forcing yourself to do things you don’t want to.
In other words, if you can convince yourself you must do something, you probably will despite how much you don’t want to do it. This is where sitting down and writing out exactly what you want and why you want it is beneficial. It gives you powerful reasons to do something, despite the desire not to do it.
For example, if you have been trying to start working out, then each day you ‘miss’ your workout, you can start to feel as though you have been wasting time. “If I had just started when I wanted to, I would already be fit!” But, you can’t go back in time. You can only decide that tomorrow, no matter what, you are going to work out. Write out exactly what you want to do when it comes to exercise and why you must do it. As you go to bed tonight, read your list and declare to yourself that tomorrow, no matter what you will start working out because you have to. No excuses. If you can do things for other people that you don’t want to do because you must do them, then you sure as hell can do things for yourself that will benefit your life in some way! The declaration to ‘just do it’ will help you take action tomorrow even if you don’t want to. And, once you start getting into the groove of doing what you need to do, it will happen much easier!
3. There Is No Right Way To Live Life
This is one of the things to remember when you just don’t feel good or accomplished enough. A lot of people compare themselves to their old classmates, friends, family, and co-workers. They see other people doing what they think are great things, and that’s when they start to feel like their life is a waste. But, the truth is that we all have different values and different paths in life, so you can’t compare yourself to anyone else.
You don’t need to be the first to accomplish something. You don’t need to accomplish what other people are accomplishing. In fact, you don’t know whether or not they are accomplishing what you think they are accomplishing!
For instance, some people seem to have it easy when it comes to managing their weight. They appear as if they are making great decisions in their life towards nutrition and exercise and that they know they have it all together. But, many of those people think they are not good enough. They are comparing themselves to other people and beating themselves up over not doing what they think they should be doing.
Comparing yourself to others is the ultimate way to feel like life is getting away from you. Of all the things to remember for more life happiness and fulfillment, this might be the number one thing.
4. Focusing On The Present Moment Gives You More Time
As you think about all the time that has passed, are you think about the present moment? Nope! You can’t be! One of the most important things to remember about life is that focusing on the present moment is what helps you make the most out of it.
When it comes to relationship advice from men, you can find it everywhere. More and more blogs and vlogs are popping up with men who got something to say about relationships, and more and more eBooks are also coming out with advice from men for both men and women. But, are some men making things worse for you? The fact is that there are plenty of men out there who can help you, but there are also plenty of men out there who are giving relationship advice that could hurt you in a big way.
Relationship Advice From Men For Women
If you are a woman, then I highly recommend taking relationship advice from men. Sometimes a woman can teach you how she fixed an aspect of her relationship and help you understand where you are going wrong in yours and what you need to do to fix it, but the advice from a man will be much more valuable in the long run.
Men know how men think and, for the most part, what men want. They may not understand women too well, but they do understand how men think because they are one! Moreover, they’ve hung around men as friends. They’ve had men raise them, teach them what they know, and mold them into the men they are today. All of that adds up to one thing – much more insight into a man that a woman could ever give you.
For instance, research shows that while men are better at some things, women are better at intuitively understanding things without having to put a lot of thought into it first. For instance, during a fight, a woman might see the situation for what it is and start to immediately argue her point with her man. But, men process information differently, and a woman yelling in a man’s ear while he is still processing the information is not going to help anything. Understanding how men work through problems can help a woman understand a situation from a male’s point of view and approach it in a more beneficial way.
However, there are times that relationship advice from men for women can be a terrible thing. For instance, an abusive father can give a ton of relationship advice to his daughter, but it’s all from his unhealthy point of view. If she hears it enough, she can go on to use it in her relationships. And sometimes, unhealthy advice from a well-intentioned male can create a very negative relationship. This happens more than you think!
For instance, a friend of mine was taught from a young age by her father that she is supposed to have kids, take care of the home, and take care of her husband, no matter what. He was a kind man who was very religious, and I think he thought he was teaching her how to be a loving wife to a kind man. Unfortunately, he passed away before she got married, but the belief that she was meant to have kids and stick by her man’s side no matter what was formed a long time ago, and now she is a marriage where she is being abused and cheated on, but she feels like it is her duty to stand by her man’s side!
I’m not saying that women are naive and will be influenced easily, but I am saying that if you hear the same unhealthy relationship advice over and over again from one person or a combination of people, you may start to believe it. That’s why women need to find credible relationship advice from men who know what they are talking about, are in healthy relationships themselves, and give advice that uplifts, strengthens, and promotes more happiness in the woman and the relationship.
Relationship Advice From Men For Men
If you are a man, this can be tough. There are a lot of guys out there giving bad relationship advice to men.
A lot of male relationship ‘gurus’ are teaching guys the tricks to keep women, but the advice is on how to manipulate women and keep control over them. Don’t get me wrong, many of these guys are smart! They understand psychology and know how to manipulate women in a way that keeps them ‘in line’, but in the long run, the women are being affected negatively by it and the relationship will eventually suffer.
For instance, some men will tell you to attack a woman’s self-worth. Making her feel like she is ‘less than’ and needs a man in her life will cause her to stay in a relationship even when it’s bad because she feels like she needs to stay in it, but that’s not part of a healthy relationship. A healthy relationship is where both people encourage each other, not bring each other down, and eventually, her feelings of not being worthy will end up affecting the relationship in a very negative way.
If a man wants to understand women better, it’s best he seeks his advice from a woman! Just as most men understand men better than women, most women understand women better than men. If you want inside information into why your girlfriend or wife is acting the way she is, what you can do to fix the situation, and how you can move forward in a way that pleases you both, then a woman is often a better person to turn to for advice.
4 Things To Think About When It Comes To Relationship Advice From Men
Do you have a problem in life that you can’t fix? Does it feel like your brain is bouncing around inside of the box struggling to find a solution, but it can’t because you can only see the information you already know? You are not alone! It can be hard to shift the way you think when you are used to seeing things in a standard way, but that doesn’t mean you can’t break free from it and think outside the box and fix problems that have been escaping you up until now. If you are willing to get more creative, there is always hope.
Thinking inside the box simply means that you are focused on a narrow range of thought. You are focused on limited information and making it a priority as you make decisions in your life. For instance, an employee who wants to do their job better, but who is focused on doing their job in the way it has always been done, is thinking inside of the box.
To think outside of the box means that you need to open your mind up to more information. You need to be able to let that information in and get inspired by it. For instance, an employee who wants to do their job better, and opens up their awareness to information such as how other people do things, what is working and what is not for them, and how they can apply that information to their own job, is thinking outside the box and will find new information to help them.
If you are ready to start thinking outside of the box more, following are some ways to do that. Yes, you can think outside of the box! You just have to shift the way you look at life.
1. Start Embracing Your Uniqueness
This is the number one tip to open yourself up to new ideas and ways of doing things. People who think outside the box are not doing things the way other people are. Why? Because they don’t believe they have to do things like other people in order to be accepted, acknowledged, or right.
It may seem like a contradiction. Shouldn’t people who value their uniqueness be stuck in a certain frame of mind? The answer is a big fat NO. People who are unique value uniqueness in everyone, not just themselves, which means they recognize other people’s uniqueness and celebrate it. They can see how other people handle situations, move through life, find success and fix problems, and because of that awareness, they can recognize the things that other people are doing that might benefit their life.
If you value your uniqueness, you also don’t worry about other people judging you so much. And, worrying about being judged is going to be one of the biggest obstacles to thinking out of the box. When you are worried about what others think, you won’t even allow yourself to come up with unique and creative solutions to problems for fear of being put down, made fun of, talked about, or laughed at. It’s much easier to do what you know other people want you to do when you are afraid of being judged.
Also, when you are unique, you can clearly see that other people are no better than you. Even the smartest people, who create new and amazing things regularly, don’t have a superpower that you don’t. This insight allows you to stop comparing yourself to other people, which causes you to get stuck in an ego state where it is hard to let your mind find solutions to your problems. And, it helps you to see that you are totally capable of doing great things, which opens up your mind even more. You believe you are capable of anything, which allows you to always look for solutions.
Lastly, when you are unique, people are more willing to approach you with ideas that inspire you. They are willing to share their deepest thoughts and experiences because they know that you are not going to judge them, and that can help you find unique ideas that allow you to think outside the box when it comes to your life.
2. Learn How To Let Things Go
When you hold onto things with a passion, you also hold onto certain ways of thinking and doing things.
– You can’t let go of the belief that you need to do something in a certain way.
– You can’t let go of the idea that the way it has always been done is the way you should be doing it.
– You can’t let go of your opinion and accept new opinions into your life.
– You can’t eliminate things that don’t work so you can adopt new ways of doing things.
How are you supposed to think outside the box when you just can’t let go?
When you allow yourself to let go, you allow yourself to move on to the next thing, which means you not overrun by thoughts and beliefs and opinions, and you are able just to soak in what other people are saying, play with the information, and use it in a creative way to fix problems that you may be having.
For example, there is a vlogger on YouTube who tends to rub people the wrong way. Most people watch her with their thoughts of anger and hate as they do. But, if you let go of the anger and hate, and just watch how she talks, thinks, and acts, then you will find yourself being inspired by her in a way. Not in a way where you want to be like her, but in a way where you learn from her mistakes, attitude, what she’s doing right and, most importantly, what she’s doing wrong. In short, you can see the real reason why she talks, thinks, and acts like she does, and you can use that information to figure out what you may be doing wrong in your life that is keeping you stuck.
Letting things go allows you to live in the moment without judgment and keep your awareness open for new ideas and solutions that can benefit your life. I’m not talking about being an airhead and not standing behind your values or beliefs, but I am talking about keeping yourself open to things that may otherwise put you in a closed frame of mind where you can’t think outside the box.
3. Combine Things That Work For You
Sometimes you don’t need to look outside of yourself for a new idea to come to you. Sometimes you just need to look at your past and take two things that worked, fit them together in some way, and then BOOM you have an idea completely outside of the box.
Optimism is a hot topic! Everyone has their opinion of what optimism means and whether or not it is good for you. So, what does optimistic mean to healthy optimists? Well, first it is important to know who is a healthy optimist and who is not. You might be surprised to learn that even the people you thought were not optimistic may just have a little bit of optimism in them.
What Does Optimistic Mean?
Being optimistic means being hopeful about an outcome and being able to see the bright side of a situation. While it requires confidence to be an optimistic person, a healthy optimistic doesn’t think that everything is going to work out their way. But, we will talk about that later in this article. For now, the definition of being optimistic means viewing a situation as beneficial and having a favorable outcome.
Is Everyone A Little Optimistic?
Most people have optimism inside of them, even if they don’t admit it. They’re optimism towards their health, for example, always stays high even when then are facing hard times in other areas of their life. They believe they are going to live a long life without disease or really big hardships regarding their health. They believe that bad things can happen to other people, but to them, they are more than likely to live out a long, healthy life and die in their bed. They have optimism towards their future when it comes to health.
Also, everyone has an optimistic attitude towards their marriage in the beginning. Despite divorce statistics saying otherwise, you don’t get married and expect to get divorced in a month. You get married and imagine a future full of fun, fulfillment, and intimacy. And, people who get divorced and remarry still have a belief that their second marriage is going to work out. That’s called being optimistic about the future of your marriage!
It is true that not everyone has an optimistic view about their future, but most people do. As humans, we forecast our lives well into our 90’s being happy and healthy. Nobody wants to believe that they are going to die before that time, so optimism is the only option.
Is It Better To Expect The Worst?
Everyone has their opinion on whether optimism is good or not. But, there are some positives and negatives of being optimistic.
Why Optimism Beats Pessimism
A lot of pessimistic people will tell you that for true happiness, it’s always best to expect the worst. When you don’t expect good things to happen, you don’t get disappointed when bad things happen because you expected things not to work out anyways. And, as a bonus, you experience a lot of happiness when you are surprised with something good.
It’s true. Being optimistic seems like it has the potential to lead to a lot of heartaches. When things don’t work out as hoped, it can feel pretty bad. High expectations that don’t come true can lead us to feel as if we didn’t do enough, weren’t strong enough, weren’t good enough, or just weren’t enough in general.
But, those feelings eventually pass – for optimistic people anyway. Why? Because people who are optimistic get back on their feet and find something else to be optimistic about. Their hope for a better future doesn’t just die out when something doesn’t work out their way. Instead, they take a lesson from the failure and learn from it. Then they set new optimistic goals for the future and start working towards them.
This is why optimistic people are more likely to achieve things in their life. Reaching goals and experiencing the life you want requires action on your part. If you are optimistic about the outcome, then you are more likely to keep taking action after a failure because you believe things will work out in one way or another. If you are pessimistic about the outcome, then you are less likely to take action after a failure because you don’t believe things will ever work out.
Moreover, when better than expected things happen to optimistic people, they still feel that boost of excitement that comes from having something really good happen. It’s still a nice surprise that they didn’t necessarily expect, even though they were expecting good things to happen.
Also, when compared to optimistic people, the people who expect the worst are less happy in their lives even when things are stable and nothing is happening. This is because their mindset is set to doom and gloom. They ‘know’ bad things are coming, so they don’t feel excited about anything, and they operate from a place of worry, doubt, and disappointment. Optimistic people, on the other hand, are excited about their future, and they tend to operate from a level of belief, hopefulness, and enthusiasm. It’s clear why optimistic people are happier in general.
When Optimism Affects Life Negatively In A Small Way
There are times that optimism can have a negative impact on life. For instance, if you are optimistic about getting everything done for the day, even when your schedule is overly full, then the chances are good that one or two things won’t get done. You may even show up late to things because, despite your optimistic attitude that you can get everything done quickly, it doesn’t always work out that way.