Monthly Archives: December 2016
Monthly Archives: December 2016
Having a constant stream of negative thoughts is bad for your happiness and your health. Not only can they make you depressed, they can affect your immune system and hormonal balance. And the stress and anxiety that stems from negative thoughts, as well as the effect they have on sleep, can shorten your lifespan. In other words, it’s in your best interest to change your thoughts from negative ones to positive ones as quickly and often as possible. With the right tools in your pocket, it becomes much easier to change your thoughts.
Following are 10 different tools you can pull from when you want to change your thoughts. You may find one that works all the time, or you may need to pick and choose depending on where you are and what you are thinking about. But, I guarantee that if you make the effort to use one of the 10 tools, you will find a way out of your negative thoughts quickly.
1. Shift Your Focus Behind Your Eyes
Sometimes we get lost in our negative thoughts and before we know it we are stuck in a stampede of negative thoughts that won’t let us get up or get out. When this happens, it’s important to call your attention back to your body and tune into your awareness so that you can get out of your head and stop thinking so much.
Many people recommend that you pay attention to your breath to call your awareness back to your body and get out of your thoughts, but Jeffery Allen has a unique way that I find extremely helpful. Be present behind your eyes. Really, being present behind your eyes is all about focusing on what’s going on here and now. You can do this right now.
Find something or someone not too far away to focus on. Feel the presence and awareness that you feel behind your eyes as you focus on this object or person. Now close your eyes and keep that presence and awareness behind your eyes. Open your eyes back up and instantly refocus on what or who you were focused on before you closed your eyes. This simple exercise will help you bring your focus to the present and get out of your negative thought cycle.
2. Connect To The Earth
This is tool can help you feel more grounded, which is great when you feel ungrounded in a negative thought cycle. But, it goes beyond getting you out of your negative thoughts. It helps you feel more centered at every moment as you go throughout your day. You feel more relaxed, conscious, present, and engaged in your life, and that naturally leads to more positive thoughts.
To do this, imagine a bright, white, and loving light pouring into the top of your head and running down your body. As it fills you up, you feel warmer and happier. Once you are filled up, imagine that from the base of your spine, you start to grow roots with this light. These roots grow all the way down to the center of the earth, and they make you feel stable, strong, and connected, just like a tree’s roots would make you feel. As you get up and move around throughout your day, these roots will stay strong and you will stay connected to the earth at all times.
You should notice a difference in awareness right away with this exercise. You should feel more powerful than you do when you are lost in your thoughts. You should feel more present and aware of what’s really happening around you. And you should feel more in control of what you are focused on and thinking about.
3. Visualize The Positive Scenario
This is a great tool to help you change your thoughts from positive to negative, and it works quickly. All you need to do is stop visualizing the negative scenario and start visualizing the positive one.
For instance, if someone just broke up with you, then you may be visualizing your future alone. Now’s the time to visualize something better, such as you being strong and powerful and having a great time as you hang out with friends not worrying about being accountable to someone else.
If you can’t think of a positive scenario to visualize, just visualize the opposite of what you are thinking. So, if you are visualizing destruction, visualize creating something positive instead. Or if you are visualizing people being unhappy, visualize them happy instead. You will find that your thoughts will start to focus on more positive things as you do this.
4. Turn Off The Negative External Noise
I think it’s safe to say that almost everyone would like to attract more money to them. In fact, money is probably one of the first things you think about when you think of the Law of Attraction and what it could do for you. That’s a good thing, not a bad thing. The more money you have, the easier it will be to live the life you want, help your friends and family live the life they want, and help out charities, the needy, or important ventures for the world.
But first, you need to attract money to you and create the wealth you want. We hear all the time that the Law of Attraction works effortlessly for us all day and every day and that we just need to get into the right mindset and state to make it work in a way that brings us the abundance we want. But, because of our habits and beliefs, it can be easier said than done to get into that mindset and state.
Esther Hicks has learned a lot about the Law of Attraction and how we are meant to live this life from Abraham, so it seems fitting that she would be a good place to turn to if we want to learn how to make the Law of Attraction bring more wealth into our lives. Following are some tips from her that I’ve found extremely helpful as I make the shift from attracting mediocre wealth to the type of wealth I want.
Tip 1: The Better Your Story Gets, The Better Your Life Gets
The rich just get richer. We’ve all heard that before, and we all believe it because we’ve seen it. But why do they get richer? Could it be because the story they tell themselves is so good that they can’t help but attract the circumstances, people, and situations into their life that make it even better?
Or, alternatively, think of someone who has no money and constantly tells a story about how they are broke and will never make enough money to pay the bills and live the life they want to live. Isn’t it true that they attract negative experiences into their life that helps their story thrive today, tomorrow, and the next day after that? Even if they get some money in their life, their negative story ensures that they lose it in some way or another.
When you create a story of lack or desperation around yourself, you contradict your desire for wealth. And the Law of Attraction says that you can’t have it both ways. You can’t focus on what you don’t want and then get what you do want. If your story is making you feel bad or desperate, then you can’t allow wealth into your experience.
So what can you do? Esther Hicks says that you need to tell the story you desire and then strengthen your story by visualizing what it is like to be living it. By doing this, you feel better about yourself and your life, and because you feel better, the details of your life will start to improve. You will start to see more positive circumstances, people, and situations in your life and you will take chances that increase your wealth because you will believe in your story and the possibilities that lay ahead for you.
Tip 2: You Get What You Give Your Attention To
You’ve probably heard a lot of talk about limiting beliefs and how they hold you back from doing the things you want the most. Most people have a lot of limiting beliefs that affect their career, health, and current relationships negatively. But when it comes to single people who are looking for love, having their lives affected negatively in an understatement. Because our relationships affect every area of our lives, it’s important to get rid of the limiting beliefs that hold us back from finding the perfect person or having a great relationship.
I see a lot of common limiting beliefs on Twitter and Facebook. I see them in the comment sections on popular dating blogs. I even hear them from my friends and their friends. And, it seems like they are getting stronger and stronger and making it really hard for single people to find real love.
If you are single and want to find real love – the kind that makes you happy for the rest of your life – then you need to delete, discard, and replace any of the following limiting beliefs that apply to you.
1. Dating Is Scary
This is a false belief that limits you from getting yourself out there as much as you should. It limits you from enjoying the dating period in your life. It could even limit you from spotting the one person who would really be a good match for you.
For instance, a friend of mine held the limiting belief that dating was scary for years. There was a guy who liked her at work, but because she held so much fear towards dating and everything that comes with it, such as moving out of your comfort zone and the possibility of being rejected, she wasn’t even aware that he liked her. Her awareness wouldn’t let her see good potential matches because her limiting belief was holding her back. When she developed a new belief about dating, she instantly realized he liked her and she went out with him. They have been together ever since!
A better belief is that dating is fun and educational. It gives you the opportunity to go out, meet a ton of people, do things you might never do otherwise, and learn more about yourself and what you want out of life and out of a partner for life.
2. A Few Big Red Flags Isn’t A Bad Thing
Many single people meet someone, see a lot of good things about them, then see one or two really big red flags. Unfortunately, most of these people have the limiting belief that one or two red flags doesn’t really matter. This is one of the many limiting beliefs that many single people, who get stuck in a bad relationship after bad relationship, buy into.
Why is it a limiting belief? It holds you back from waiting for someone better (it limits potential good matches) and causes you to get into a bad relationship.
Red flags come into your consciousness for a reason. They are a signal that something about this person is not right and you may not enjoy being with them in the future. If you ignore these red flags with limiting beliefs such as ‘There is something wrong with everyone!’ or ‘Maybe it will not be an issue in the future!’, then you are setting yourself up for failure.
For instance, if you have been cheated on before, and your date flirts with someone else right in front of you, then you may outweigh this negative action with all the good things he or she has done. Because, after all, a few red flags isn’t a bad thing, right? But, there is a really good chance that if he or she can flirt with other people in front of you, they will do much more when they are not in front of you.
The point is that if they give off some really big warning signs that unhappiness is in your future, then pay attention to them. Develop the belief that it is better to admit the issues that will cause your relationship to become unhappy than to just wait and see if things don’t manifest badly.
3. I Have To Find Someone Before (Fill In The Blank)
One of the worst limiting beliefs I’ve ever seen is the belief that you need to find someone before you reach a certain age, reach a certain milestone, or reach anything else in life.