Monthly Archives: May 2017
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Here’s the situation: You decide that you want something amazing in your life, you get excited about it, you dream about it, you talk about it, and then after a few days the excitement starts to fade away. Then your mind comes up with justifications as to why you should keep doing what you are doing, and they make a lot of sense. And then, finally, you give up on that amazing thing you wanted.
Often years later you come back to that thing you wanted so badly and feel a twinge of regret for not going after it. Sometimes that twinge can get you to reignite the flame and start dreaming and talking about it again, but if your mind is in the same place, it will ultimately fade away again.
If you are anything like me, you don’t want to live with regret. You don’t want to wake up one day wishing you had gone after that amazing thing. You don’t want to wonder whether or not you could have achieved your biggest dreams in life. It’s a painful way to live, and the more life goes on, the more painful it seems to get.
That’s why you need to retrain your brain to help you get those amazing things. You need to help it stay focused on what you want and passionate about those big dreams you have. You also need to strengthen it and make it strong in the face of fear, failure, struggle or just plain boredom.
When you develop a brain that keeps working on achieving those amazing things you want, your chances of getting what you want will grow exponentially. You may not always end up getting exactly what you were going after, but you will get something similar or better.
For instance, you may not get that elephant you wanted as a pet, but you may be led to a horse that you couldn’t imagine life without.
Sometimes we don’t know what will make us happiest until we start traveling down the road towards what we want.
A Plan To Retrain Your Mind To Commit For The Long Haul
In this article, I’m going to use the example of wanting to travel in an RV full-time. It’s a big dream. The idea is a dream many people have as they think about a way to travel, explore, connect with nature, and get out of their mortgage and debt. It is easily let go, though. It can take some time to achieve, which requires endurance. And it is far from traditional, so keeping a passionate and focused mind around it is important.
But, this plan to retrain your mind will work for anything in your life, not just for retraining your mind to commit to your full-time RV lifestyle. When you get excited about something, use the following plan to help retrain your mind from its desire to let go of the notion to hold onto it and find ways to work towards it.
1. Write Down The ‘Whys’
First, before anything else, get out a piece of paper or large cardstock, or open up a Word document, and write down WHY you want to achieve that amazing thing in your life. The ‘why’ is what got you excited in the first place, so you will want to hold onto it.
It’s been proven over and over again that people who write down their dreams and goals are much more likely to transform what they want into reality. In fact, one study done by Dr. Gail Matthews, a psychology professor at the Dominican University of California, found that if you write down your dreams and goals you are 42% more likely to accomplish them. So that’s a good start to our plan!
You may think that holding onto the reasons why inside your mind is enough, but it’s not. Your mind is trained to give up and let go of an idea that’s too hard, so as it starts to think about reasons why you should let go of the dream, the ‘whys’ will start to dwindle until you can barely feel the excitement you felt in the first place.
BUT, when you write them down and look at them often, you reverberate the importance of achieving these goals to your mind. Your mind can’t just simply let go of the ideas on why you should go after your dreams. It’s forced to see those reasons day in and day out and ponder them over.
And the more your mind ponders them over, the more it becomes a part of your mind’s daily thoughts – or routine. Your mind finds reasons to hold onto those ‘whys’ and you find yourself constantly thinking about achieving those dreams you set out to achieve.
Even if you are not feeling a ton of excitement and passion like you did in the first place, you will still feel many moments of excitement and passion because your mind can’t forget those ‘whys’.
You can do this in any way you want. As long as you can see it and it excites you, it will work. Three big ways to write down your ‘whys’ are:
a) Create a list on a piece of paper. Write down each reason you want to achieve what you want to achieve. Make sure you are detailed about it.
– I want to travel full-time and experience everything this country has to offer. There are so many beautiful places around that I may not get to see otherwise.
– I want to spend more time with my family and less time in the office. Each hour gained with my family will add to my health and my happiness and quality of life.
– I want to spend less time cleaning and more time living! Those hours spent cleaning my big house could be used exploring with my family.
b) Get a big piece of cardstock, and along with your written out reasons, put up pictures that help you visualize your ‘whys’ better.
For example, you can add pictures that showcase exciting spots that you want to see across the country. Doing this will help drive home your ‘whys’ even more.
c) Create a new word document, write down your ‘whys’ and then add pictures in that document. You can find all kinds of pictures to paste into your document that will help emphasize your ‘whys’. Then either print it out or look at it daily on your computer.
2. Immerse Yourself In What You Want To Achieve
Your mind is affected by what it sees. And because the world seems to be a scary place where people focus on fear, the chances are good you will see a lot of things that make you fearful about going after your biggest dreams in life.
For instance, if you want to live full-time in an RV, you may see stories online about how hard it is or how many things there are to consider or how much work is required to get to that point. All of those negative things will make your mind question whether or not you can really do this. And, if the reasons why you can’t become too convincing, you will rip down your ‘whys’ and let your justifications take over.
That’s when you start to head down the road of regret!
Instead of letting that happen, immerse in what you want.
– Go to RV parks and talk to people who are traveling full-time.
– Watch people on YouTube who are living out their dreams of full-time RVing with their kids, pets, or just themselves.
– Read about how to make full-time RVing work for you.
– Read about people who have lived it and learn from their mistakes and successes.
– Immerse yourself into the world of RVs and traveling full-time and give your mind plenty of positives and hopeful thoughts so that it can stay on the right track as you move along.
Another advantage of immersing yourself in what you want to achieve is you start to build a mental plan on how to reach your dreams. This is because the more you learn about what you want, the more you know what you need to do to get there.
For instance, the more you learn about how to travel full-time in an RV, the more you learn about how much money you need to save and make so that you can travel full-time. That helps you figure out how much you need to save per month as part of your budget, or it encourages you to find a new job and make more money. And, once you start saving or making more money, your mind sees your dream as a much more realistic thing, which keeps it focused on going after it.
Lastly, immersing yourself in the world of where you want to be makes going after it less scary and improves the longevity of doing what needs to be done. You can see it’s possible to achieve, so you stay hopeful. Other people are doing it and having success. You can see what needs to be done to help you achieve success. And, your reality of what is possible shifts.
TD Jakes has one amazing thing to say after another. I’m not exaggerating. I can’t count the number of aha moments I’ve had while listening to him. While he is a pastor, you don’t need to be religious to benefit from his lessons. What he says makes sense for everyone who wants to become better and happier. His mission is helping people find their purpose and fulfill their destiny, and we can all benefit from that kind of person.
You can listen to TD Jakes in his sermons, during his guest appearances, and on YouTube, or you can read more by him on his blog. But, if you don’t have the time to do that, you will want to keep up with his Twitter account. You will find powerful bite-size advice on his Twitter that you can digest quickly and benefit from.
Let’s talk about some of the best of TD Jakes on Twitter from this year so far.
The Best Of TD Jakes On Twitter From January To April
Keep in mind that TD Jakes posts a few tweets per day, often quotes from his sermons, so you can check back often to see what he has to say during the day.
Best Of TD Jakes In January On Twitter
On the first day of January, T.D. Jakes tweeted out, “Selfish people cannot see beyond themselves! You are stuck because of what you “don’t care” about!”
For anyone who didn’t live up to their New Year’s resolutions, that tweet may be an eye-opener. When you are so focused on yourself, you don’t care about things outside of yourself, and that keeps you stuck.
For instance, if you are trying to advance your career, your focus on yourself may cause you to hurt other people along the way. When you do that, they will not help you or lift you up, and you will unintentionally be hurting your chances at an advancement. But, when you step out of a selfish mindset, you can see other people’s needs and desires, and you can help them achieve them. And, they, in turn, can help you achieve your needs and desires.
Another one of the best tweets from the first day of January was “People who live on Social Media, live on the mountains of life! How do you survive the valleys of life?”
This is something that we tend not to think about. Getting lost in social media means getting lost in ‘too good to be true’. Most people are sharing themselves in a positive light. Most people seem strong, without failure, and without troubles. But that’s not real life.
All of the people behind these accounts are struggling in different ways. They just aren’t sharing the low times, so you start to believe that all they experience is good times. When that happens, your own bad times seem extra bad. You start to question your life. Why am I the only one who has bad times? Why can’t I be as strong, lucky, and capable as the people you see on social media? Those questions will cause you to beat yourself up and struggle even more during the ‘valleys of life’.
TD Jakes is not saying that social media is a bad thing. Obviously, he uses social media to spread positive messages. He’s just saying that we need to realize that social media is not all it appears to be. Take everything with a grain of salt. Remember that everyone stands on mountains sometimes, but they also spend time moving through the valleys. With that awareness, your own life won’t seem so hard in compassion to the fabulous lives that people seem to have on social media.
Later in that week, TD Jakes tweeted out this – “Arguments don’t make life wonderful. Winning doesn’t make life wonderful. Love makes life wonderful.”
I think we all want to feel good during our day, and love is the key to doing so. Focusing on love instead of winning or being right is the best way to have a day that feels good and is full of pleasure. So, act with love, speak with love, make decisions based on love, talk about love, show love, spread love, and feel love for the most wonderful day (and life) you can have.
In the middle of January, TD Jakes tweeted, “I firmly believe that being in tune with your instinctive passions is a key factor success in this life.”
It’s interesting that he believes that. A lot of people in the self-improvement industry firmly believe that too. It’s an inspirational truth to help everyone see that they don’t need to do what is expected of them for their success. They need to follow their passions and do the things that they were drawn to do. I’ve found that the people who are most miserable and unsuccessful in life have let their passions die out and lost touch with their inner self and inner desires.
Later, he tweeted, “You have to have trust in order to receive favor!”
I love that tweet because it lines up with my beliefs in the law of attraction and getting what you want out of life. You need to ask for what you want in life, but you also have to trust that you are going to receive good things that you are hoping for. When you don’t, you stop what you want most from coming.
If you don’t trust that better times are coming, then you feel like life is never going to change and you stay focused on the bad things in life. When that happens, what do you see? Bad things! You see the failures. You see the letdowns. You see the misery. Your lack of trust keeps you from seeing the light and prevents you from grabbing a hold of it. And, when you can’t grab the light, you can’t ride it towards things that you want.
And at the end of January, he tweeted, “You don’t have to know everything to achieve your destiny.”
Again, I love that he focuses on destiny and living a life of passion. Too many people are taught to live a life that is expected of them and then they get stuck in an unhappy rut of doing things that they don’t want to do and living a life that is wasted on other people’s dreams. The fact that TD Jakes promotes living a full life is just one of the many reasons he’s someone I recommend listening to on a daily basis.
Best Of TD Jakes In February On Twitter
At the start of February, he tweeted, “My challenge to you today is to extend KINDNESS. You never know what a smile can do in the life of someone who needs it.”
Yes! That is the kind of man we need to have a huge influence over the world. Too many people in his position are promoting judgment. That doesn’t help create a better world. It only helps bring the world down further. Kindness, on the other hand, will create a more loving, compassion, and patient world that the next generation will enjoy living in.
In the middle of February, TD Jakes tweeted, “Hook up with people that want to see you advance!” and “Beware of ‘people pleasers’ – they’re the type that don’t stand for something, so they fall for anything!”
That is relationship advice you can use in your intimate relationships and work relationships to give you an advantage that other people don’t have.
The first tweet simply means that you should surround yourself with positive people who support you and lift you up, not drag you down. They are the people that will help you move forward towards the life you want. While people who want to destroy you can teach you more about your inner strength, they are too draining to be around often. The main people in your life should want to see you advance.
The second tweet will ring true for many people, especially most people who work with a lot of other people. There are always ‘people pleaser’ coworkers, and they are known to shift their opinions and behaviors like a feather in the wind. They don’t have their own beliefs and opinions, so they are easily swayed. That simply means they won’t have your back for long! They will agree with you and help you out one minute and then, if someone else convinces them to, they will stab you in the back just as easily. Remember, people who are too eager to please are not the type of people you want to trust with your happiness.
Another one of his best tweets is this – “You know you are walking in the newness of life by how you respond to old situations!”
For me, that hits home in a big way. I’ve noticed that I don’t respond to many things the way I used to. I don’t respond to negative people in the same way because I no longer take their negativity personally. I don’t respond to failure in the same way because I no longer view failure as a bad thing. I guess I’m walking in the newness of life!
How about you? Do you respond to things the same way you always have? Do you think you can’t change? If you do, you may want to reconsider! Life is always changing. You are always changing. It doesn’t matter where you are in life or what has happened, you have the potential to walk in the newness of life because you are capable of choice.
He also tweeted out, “The renewed mind is a process!”
That is something to remember during your struggles towards change. You can’t flip the switch one night and have a completely different life the next day. It’s a process.
– You need to collect new ideas.
– You need to start seeing things differently.
– You need to learn from other people.
– You need to practice what you learn.
All of that can take time. So, don’t rush the changes and focus on the end; instead, enjoy the process and capture every moment of your life!
And the last of the Best of TD Jakes for February is this – “What God has for you, is for YOU! The oil will not flow if it’s not meant for you!”
In other words, don’t try to live someone else’s life. Don’t try to get things that you know are not meant for you. Don’t try to live a life based on other people. If you want blessings, purpose, and success, stay true to your inner passions and do the things that YOU were put here to do. Celebrate your uniqueness. Embrace your unique talents. And, then watch the oil flow your way!
Best Of TD Jakes In March On Twitter
In the beginning of March, TD Jakes tweeted, “When God is fighting for you, He fights in ways you don’t even know how to use!”
That speaks to the unknown of life and how we may not always know how everything works, but that doesn’t mean we should deny it!