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It’s been a while since The Art Of War by Sun Tzu was written, but the wisdom found inside are still truths today that you can apply to all aspects of life. If you have not read it yet, I highly recommend that you do. Until then, you can read reviews of it and articles on how the lessons apply to various areas of your life such as business and negotiation. But, the reason you need to read it for yourself is because the ideas inside can help you outside of the scope of business and negotiation.
For instance, if you want to improve your relationships and stop the conflict in them, The Art Of War can help you, and we will talk about how some of his strategic rules can do that in this article. I’m going to paraphrase a lot of what Sun Tzu says and change some words that he uses like ‘enemy’ and ‘battle’, which is not what relationships should be about – even the most negative relationships we have. So, let’s take a look at his advice that can help you with both intimate and non-intimate relationships.
Know Yourself And Your Partner
In The Art Of War by Sun Tzu, he made it clear that if you know yourself and your enemy, you don’t need to worry about having a hundred battles. He says that if you only know yourself, you will suffer a defeat for every victory you have. And, if you don’t know yourself nor your enemy, you will lose every battle you take on with them. This applies to your relationships in a big way!
You need to know both yourself and the other person if you want to stop fighting and start finding peace in your relationship. When you have awareness around yourself and your needs, you will be able to communicate better with other people about who you are and what you want, and they will have more of an understanding about where you are coming from. That will help them see your point of view clearer and stop a lot of the resistance that comes from not understanding each other.
When you take the time to understand other people, you start to understand their strengths and weaknesses. You understand their needs and how they view the world. You understand their belief systems. And you can work with that knowledge to come to a resolution that makes everyone happy.
But, when you have no self-awareness or awareness of other people’s feelings, beliefs, and thoughts, you will make choices based on instinct and reaction. You can’t make beneficial choices that benefit your relationship because you don’t know what will benefit your relationship. You don’t understand what you need or what they need, so you struggle and resist and fight and never find the peace that you want.
I’ve known a lot of people who operate from a lack of awareness in their relationships and are always in a constant state of struggle. Some of these people have been struggling for decades because they are simply unwilling to take the time to get to know themselves and other people.
If you find yourself struggling in your relationships, then self-awareness and general awareness of other people’s thoughts, feelings, and struggles, are two things you should be working on starting today. Speaking from experience, you will instantly find less struggle in your relationships and more peace.
Don’t Let Fights Go On And On And On
Sun Tzu said that your objective should be victory, not battling it out for a long period of time. This advice can help you be viewed as a person who moves towards peace, not struggle, and it can help you gain the respect of the people around you.
Think about how this applies to your relationships and how beneficial it will be for your relationships. If your main objective is to fight, then you are going to be viewed as someone who wants to stir up trouble and create problems. Nobody holds someone like that in high regard. Nobody wants to be in a relationship with someone like that.
It’s easy to bury your head in the sand and not pay attention to yourself, the people around you, and the world. A lot of people think that they will be happier without living in a state of awareness. But the truth is that having awareness helps you reduce negative thinking and emotions, and it gives you the power to do something about things affecting your life negatively. Hopefully, these awareness quotes will help you see that and change your life forever.
1. Awareness Will Help Increase Your Daily Positivity
“Hope, hopelessness, despair are relative. Awareness is absolute.” – Deepak Chopra
There is so much that happens to us throughout the day. We hear about things, we see things, and we experience things that we may or may not like. How we feel about these things can depend a lot on how much awareness we are carrying around them.
For instance, if we hear about some political drama that is going on, it can cause us to lose hope or gain hope depending on our awareness. If we lack awareness around the situation, we often make stories up in our head and come up with the worst case scenario. However, if we have awareness around the situation – even a little, we often move forward with less struggle and more hope that things will work out. This keeps us in a more positive frame of mind.
It’s important to remember that hope, hopelessness, and despair can be natural reactions in relation to what is happening. But, when you see things as hopeless, you are not seeing things clearly. You are being influenced by the current situation. With more awareness, you will start to view things with a clearer lens that takes into account the whole picture, not just one situation, and that will decrease the negative thoughts and emotions.
2. You And Awareness Are One
“You are awareness disguised as a person.” – Eckhart Tolle
Oprah once said that this was one of the awareness quotes from Eckhart Tolle that was a huge aha moment for her. Essentially this quote means that you are not the voice in your head, despite how loud it gets or how much it demands you listen to it. Instead, you are awareness.
If the voice in your head tells you that you are in a stressful situation, you can feel stressed. But, the fact is, just because that voice says it’s stressful, doesn’t mean you need to feel stressed.
If you gain a sense of awareness and see the situation for what is it, not what your mind is making it up to be, there is a good chance you will feel content at the bare minimum and joyful at the most.
For example, the other day I had to meet up with a judgmental friend who is known to complain and point out faults in everyone. The voice in my head told me I should be stressed and worried about getting together with her, and for a while I was. But, then I realized that I was much more than the voice in my head. I decided to move forward with a sense of awareness around the situation, which allowed me to wait and see what happened without guessing. I took it moment by moment and ended up enjoying the get-together. In short, I chose to live in my true state – awareness, and it helped me make the most of the moment and see it as it was rather than what my imagination decided it could be.
3. Can You Develop Your Awareness?
“Taking responsibility for your destiny. Embracing the possibilities that arise today. Being open and alert to changing situations. Having a confident flexible response to change. Finding solutions when problems and obstacles block the way. None of these depend on god-given attributes, good luck or a happy childhood. They are awareness skills, and it’s totally realistic for you to develop them if you use hope as part of your inner strength.” – Deepak Chopra
All awareness quotes from Deepak pack a powerful lesson, which is why you will see a few from him in this article. This quote was from a meditation lesson he was doing on hope, and it makes it very clear that you can become skilled at awareness and exactly how you can do it.
Looking at the skills he mentions, I can clearly see that people in my life who lack awareness also lack most of these skills. They don’t take responsibility for their own life. They are resistant to change. They give up when obstacles block the way and complain consistently about the obstacle instead. And, they come from all walks of life, but still, use their life as an excuse for where they are. I wish they could read and understand this quote, but the fact is they probably aren’t ready to hear it and wouldn’t be able to fully grasp its importance.
If you are still reading this article on awareness quotes, then I’m willing to bet you can see the importance in developing these skills. In fact, you probably already have a few of them locked down.
A champion is someone who comes out victorious when competing against other people or going after something they really want. There are many different characteristics of champions that make them winners, and the good news is these characteristics are not magical or unachievable by ordinary people. They are human characteristics that everyone has access to.
If you don’t have them yet, you just need to understand why they are so important and then put in the practice needed to develop them. And, they do take practice. You can’t just turn on a certain trait because you want it to. You have to change your beliefs around that trait and then use techniques and tools to help you develop it. Then, you need to work on maintaining it so that it becomes a part of who you are.
The bottom line is that you have the potential to be great. If you want to be a champion in life, then following is a list of traits that you will want to work on.
Muhammad Ali, who is one of the most recognizable champions in boxing history, said that people who do not have the courage to take risks do not accomplish anything in life. I would add to that and say that people who do not have the courage to take more than one risk, will never become a true success or a champion in life.
Muhammad Ali had the courage to rise up despite criticism. He also had the courage to train hard, keep going despite his failures in his life, speak up for what he believed in, and stand up for what he believed in. The fact is that courage was a centerpiece in his life. But, you will find that courage plays a big part in every champion’s life.
Everyone who comes out a winner had to have the courage to start going after something they wanted in the beginning. It’s uncomfortable for everyone to start, and there is always a fear that you won’t be good enough, but the eventual winners gather up the courage to take the first step despite their fears.
And when failure comes around – and it always does – champions needed to gather up more courage to keep going after their dreams. They have to believe in themselves despite the failure. They had to keep trying even though their efforts resulted in failure before.
So, courage is an essential characteristic of becoming a champion. But how can you gain courage?
For starters, become passionate about what you want to achieve. Imagine yourself as a champion and everything that comes with it. Imagine your loved ones benefiting from your success and the pride you will feel as you succeed. Let the end result of being a champion fuel the passion inside of you. Then let that passion drive you forward by focusing on it rather than your fear. Every time fear or doubt arises, focus your attention back on what it will feel like to be a champion and let those feelings help you keep moving towards your dreams.
And, perhaps most importantly, understand that despite how much you try and prepare, you can still fail. Many people can’t work up the courage to do something because they are so scared of failure. The fact is that failure will happen because you don’t always get it right. You don’t always do the right things or prepare properly. You don’t always know the correct information. And other people and circumstances can sometimes get in your way of success.
Remember, Edison had about one thousand failures before he invented the light bulb. But, despite his failures, he still accomplished what he wanted because he had the passion to do it and the courage to keep trying. Be like all the champions in the world. Embrace failure as an important part of life and you will stop fearing it and letting it hold you back.
2. Belief In Yourself
You can’t second guess yourself all the time if you want to be a champion. Champions have a faith in their ability to achieve what they set out to do. They may not always feel fully confident that they will succeed because they know that failure is a part of trying, but their core belief is centered around the fact that they can succeed if they just put enough effort in despite the failures. They also have a belief that they are going to achieve what they set out to achieve in the moment. They aren’t focused on the past or future. They are centered and do something with a belief that they can succeed right now.
Probably the biggest example of that is Babe Ruth, who is known as one of the greatest baseball champions in history, who called out a home run in the fifth inning of Game 3 in the 1932 World Series before he made it. It’s obvious that he believed that he could hit that home run, and he did. And there’s no doubt he had an inner belief in himself that he carried throughout his entire career to make him into one of the most well-known champions of baseball around.
The thing to remember is that believing in yourself does not mean you put down other people or bully other people. It’s not about rejecting other people’s ideas or support. It’s about trusting in your capabilities and letting that faith help you do what you need to do with confidence.
For instance, Susan Boyle had faith that she could impress the judges on Britain’s Got Talent, and that helped her do what she needed to do to become the success that she has become.
How can you develop faith in yourself? The biggest thing to remember is that if you have the desire to do something, then you have the potential to achieve it. The desire to achieve something is what helps you keep your awareness open to new tips, tools, and techniques to achieve your dreams. It’s what helps you practice continuously with faith that you will succeed. It’s what helps motivate you and keep the faith when things are stressful. In other words, if you feel the desire to achieve something great, then that desire is going to help you keep moving forward and become a champion in whatever area you want to be a champion in.
Bobby Orr is known as the guy who brought more offense to defense. He was a defenseman who rushed the puck up the ice and set up teammates with passes. He redefined the position of defenseman in hockey, and he did it so successfully that many other hockey players followed his lead. This ability to be innovative and step out of the role he was supposed to be in made him a champion in hockey.
To become a champion, you don’t need to reinvent the wheel. There are a lot of great people who have carved out a proven path to be the champion that you want to be.
But if you think (or believe) that you can do something that is not normally done, then why not do it? Why not test out your theories to see if they will work? If you are willing to push the boundaries and see if you can tweak something to make it better – or make yourself better, then there is a good chance you will discover a new technique or way of doing something that makes you stronger and more capable in that particular area.
There’s a common belief among people who actually go after what they want: If you give up on something you want, you give up on your life.
The fact is that no one ever complained about following their dreams. No one ever complained about going after what they wanted with a vengeance. The only people you will hear complain about life are the people who couldn’t stay strong and gave up.
Aim to be the person who never complains about what you didn’t get to achieve. Use the following quotes about not giving up and staying strong to help you out. They are all equally important to remember as you work towards what you want in life.
1. Failure Leads To Success
“Failure is an integral part of success, so don’t let that be the reason you give up.” – Prince Ea
One failure can make you want to give up, but failure after failure can beat you down and make you feel unworthy and incapable. I get it. But, if you choose to look at failure differently, it still won’t feel great when it happens, but it will not be a signal to give up; instead, it will be a signal to try again and keep going.
Try viewing failure in a few different ways.
First, view failure as something that happens as a result of trying, which is a good thing. Most people don’t even try, so you’ve already taken steps beyond what most people will do.
Second, see failure as a way to build your character and make you stronger and more capable of taking bigger risks that might result in bigger payoffs, but also bigger failures.
Lastly, see failure as a tool that can help you understand how to move forward in a way that gives you a greater chance of getting what you want.
When you view failure in those three ways, it will feel much less draining. And, you will find yourself not giving up and staying strong in the face of failure, despite how badly you wanted a success instead of a failure.
2. Others Will Always Try To Get You To Give Up
“Many will find fault: YOU must find the forward path.” – Tristan Bishop
When I first started my online business, everyone else thought it was ridiculous. It was what I wanted to do, but because they found so much fault in it, I felt like giving up. Thankfully I didn’t. I’ve gone on to create some amazing things and live a life that I want to live. But, it took a lot of strength to find the right path forward despite all the faults that other people found in it.
Other people won’t just try to affect your career path or your desire to go after your passions. They will try to affect the very essence of who you are.
For instance, I know a young man who recently came out as gay to his parents. Both of them see it as a phase, and they are trying to get him the ‘support’ he needs to realize what his true path forward is. Thankfully, this young man is strong and understands that his parents don’t understand who he is. He’s not going to give up on his vision for himself, just because they can’t understand it. He’s going to stay strong despite their disapproving looks, words, and actions. And that’s what not giving up on yourself is all about.
3. Not Many People Go After What They Want
“Don’t cry because you want to give up, cry because you care enough to keep going.” – James Ellsworth
Almost everyone feels the desire to give up when they try to make changes in their life or go down a path that is challenging, but what those people need to realize is that they cared enough about themselves and their happiness to try. Most people won’t take the first step.
Most people won’t go after what they want. This shows in New Year’s resolutions where almost everyone sets out goals for themselves, but, according to statistics, less than 10 percent of people actually achieve those goals. Their fear and resistance keep them stuck in a place they don’t want to be and they spend their time crying – not because it’s hard, but because they can’t even try to go after the life they want.
A lot of people want to know about the skills you need to be successful in life, but I think that knowing about the skills you need to be successful at creating the life you want can help you not just be successful in life, but create a life that you actually want to live. You can be successful at something you hate doing; in fact, a lot of people are doing that right now. But, being successful at something you hate doing doesn’t fulfill you in a way that makes life feel amazing. That’s why I highly recommend working on creating your own reality.
Most People Believe That Life Is Happening To Them
Vishen Lakhiani talks about an evolution of consciousness starting with the ‘early man’ (think caveman without communication skills) and ending with ‘the god mind’ (think about not listening to a higher power but being a higher power). Vishen says that most people are operating one step up from the early man in a ‘modern man’ state. This is where they feel like life is happening to them and that few things are in their control.
How can you experience real success in that state? Your dreams are desires go unrealized as you deal with the hand you are dealt on a daily basis. You chalk up whatever happens in your life as ‘just the way it is’ and you do the best that you can to make it through life instead of the best that you can to live a happy and fulfilling life.
In order to be successful at creating your reality, you need to get out of the ‘modern man’ mindset and move to the next step, which he calls the ‘culture hacker’. This is where you notice that your thoughts, feelings, and actions are impacting your life and your goals. This is where you see that you are able to create situations and outcomes that you want and you are able to create the success that you want.
Once you get into this mindset, you will stop crossing your fingers hoping that life doesn’t deal you a bad hand and you will start doing things in your life that help you reach the success you want. So, let’s talk about the three essential skills you need to make that happen.
Skills You Need To Be Successful At Creating Your Own Reality
A skill is the ability to understand and perform something well. A few of the following things may not feel like skills, but once you understand how powerful they are for creating the life that you want, you will see them as skills and want to work on them.
1. Ordering What You Want From The Big Cook (And Expecting Your Order To Be Delivered)
Have you ever asked for something in your life and really believed that you were going to get it? If you have, then you probably ended up getting what you wanted, as long as it wasn’t something completely unrealistic. This is because not only did you ask and believe that something was coming, you expected it. So, you kept your eyes open for ways that you could get it.
For instance, a friend of mine wanted a specific kind of job with specific benefits. He was working at a job he hated, but he knew that his perfect job was out there and he would be much happier in that job. So, he asked for the job, believed he would find it, and then expected to find his way to it. When he met people, he looked for ways they could help him. When he was faced with choices, he chose to do things that would move him closer to the job. And he constantly looked through the job boards to see if his perfect job had been posted yet. He didn’t worry about how he was going to find the job, he just knew that he was. And in less than a month, he met someone on the train who happened to work at a place where they had an opening for his dream job. He found out how to apply, applied, went for the interview, and had the job within a week of meeting that person.
Doing this successfully requires you to understand that what you want is out there, stay open to signs and coincidences, and then do things that help you get what you want. If you can do that, then you can find your way towards almost anything that you want to be successful at.
Determination is all about you. It’s about making choices and taking action that helps you get the life you want. It’s about making decisions based on what you feel is right and staying the course, no matter what happens or what other people say. Having determination is important for living a life that you want to live. That’s why quotes about determination are so important. They help you keep your resolve to stay determined and build a strategy that helps make it easier. Following are 9 important quotes about determination that you may want to use.
1. Having Determination Despite This Crazy World
“Courage is waking up every day with hope and determination in an unpredictable world.” – Wasanga Mehana
Life is unpredictable. Your day is unpredictable. And that can be scary to a lot of people.
This is one of those quotes about determination that remind you that life is a day by day thing, and all you need to do is muster up the right attitude in order to face your day. It reminds you that you must maintain hope and keep working towards your dreams, no matter what is going on in the world today.
So, if you wake up and you are met with bad news or your day doesn’t go as planned, remember this quote. Remember that with hope and determination you can muster up the courage to keep doing what you need to do.
2. Imagination And Determination Equal Accomplishments
“We can accomplish far more than we give ourselves credit for. It just takes imagination plus determination.” – Ari Sytner
Your imagination is NOT a place of unrealistic dreams. It’s a place to come up with ideas that will move you forward towards your dreams. It’s also a place to come up with the dreams and goals you want to achieve based on what you have experienced and what you want to experience in the future. When you combine your imagination with determination, you start to accomplish things you never thought you would accomplish.
The trick is to stop saying ‘I wish’ and start valuing your imagination as a practical tool for helping you see the options and potential you have in life – because that’s what it is, a valuable tool. When you view your imagination as something that helps you see real possibilities, you will start to gain the determination to go after all those amazing things that it can come up with.
3. Focus And Determination Equals Change
“With focus and determination you can change it all.” – Brendon Burchard
If you want to be happier in life, then change is necessary. You probably already value change if you are looking for quotes about determination. You likely want to find the resolve to stay determined enough to make changes. But, part of staying determined is understanding exactly how important change is and holding that belief in your mind.
Are there people out there who don’t worry about failure? Yes, in a sense. There are people who view failure in a completely different way and instead of worrying about it, they embrace it. I know that sounds crazy, but with the right mindset and ways of being, you can view failure as something to embrace too. The following life hacks will help you to stop worrying about failure and start seeing it as something valuable and even needed in your life.
1. Pretend This Is Heaven
Kamal Ravikant, a best-selling author, gave a speech on loving yourself. During it, he talks about a friend of his that died for 7 minutes after a heart attack at the age of 24. She said that after that happened to her, anything she wanted in life came to her. When he asked her why she thought she was attracting things so easily, she said that she started to wonder if this was heaven, because nobody can prove that she really didn’t die for good from her heart attack. And if this is heaven, she said, they I can have, do, or be anything I want.
Imagine having that kind of mentality. Would you worry about failure? No, because you know that eventually you can have, be, or do anything you want. Moreover, if you believe this is heaven, then failure must be a part of being in heaven, right? It must be necessary in heaven, for some reason, so why not just embrace it at as a part of your journey to get whatever you want?
In short, pretend this is heaven where nothing is happening TO you, it’s happening FOR you. Everything that happens is happening to set you up with what you want because it’s heaven – a place where you can get anything you want. And let this belief carry through all areas of your life – your health, love life, and career. If you do, then you will take failure in any area of your life as a part of the process of getting what you want – and it won’t seem like a bad thing that you need to worry about.
2. See Failure As A Confidence Building Tool
Do you want to be more confident in all areas of your life? You can be confident without failure, but you can’t gain the level of confidence that allows you to face life’s ups and downs head on and move through them easily.
For example, you may start a business and have instant success. Of course, you will feel confident during this time. You will feel like you know what you are doing and that you are capable of success, and that confidence will help you move forward. But, when something goes wrong, your confidence will be tested. You may start to doubt your ability to run a business, and that doubt will affect how you interact with your business and how successful your business is. But, if you experience ten big failures in business where you lose or nearly lose everything, and then you build a successful business back up, you will gain a superman-like confidence in your ability to come back from obstacles and still be successful.
Kids grow a lot between the ages of 5-12. They are developing their self-image, facing challenges, and learning how to live in a healthy way. With the right information, they can build a solid foundation of beliefs and habits that help them transition into their teen years easier.
While kids may not remember a lecture that you give them, they will have an easier time remembering some inspirational quotes for kids. Posting the following quotes in their bedroom, whether in a picture frame or just tacked onto their wall beside their bed or desk, will make sure that they look at them often. The more they look at them, the more they will understand believe them and incorporate them into their core value system. And that will set them up for a brighter and better future.
1. On Choosing Friends
“Fake friends, negative friends, ain’t nobody got time for that.” – Prince Ea
It can be hard to choose friends wisely as a kid. Kids are often drawn to other kids that are like them, but if they lack self-esteem, they can also choose friends that are controlling or pick on them. That can hurt their self-esteem even more and set up a mentality that they will struggle with for a long time to come – possibly even into adulthood.
Moreover, if they pick friends who constantly make bad choices, they can set themselves up for a lot of trouble in school and at home as they join in with their friends in an act to bond and be alike. They can develop negative habits and beliefs and have a hard time seeing themselves as a good kid who makes good choices and being a good kid who makes good choices.
This quote by Prince Ea is an easy one to remember. Explain to your kids that if they feel like their friends are not being honest or real, or if they are making them do things that are bad, then they don’t need to stay friends with them. There are better things that they can do with their time, including finding better friends who make them feel good and help them do good things that they are proud of.
2. On Belonging
“You are worthy of love and belonging.” – Brene Brown
It’s important that kids feel like they are an important member of the world. It’s important that they feel like they are valued in their family, school, church, extracurricular activities, and anywhere else they go. They need to know that they are worthy of being an important part of any group they belong to and that they are worthy of being loved.
This quote by Brene Brown will help remind them that they are worthy of love and belonging. It will boost their self-confidence. It will increase the value they place on themselves. And it will help them stay committed to groups that value them and disengage themselves from groups that don’t recognize their value and worth or treat them with the kindness and love they deserve.
3. On Purpose
“Your life has purpose. Your story is important. Your dreams count. Your voice matters. You were born to make an impact.” – Unknown
As adults, we need to know the value of purpose. Without it, we feel like we are just going through the motions of day to day life, and something feels lacking from our lives.
Setting kids up with a strong sense that they have purpose will help them carry that belief into their teens and adult life. It will help them place a lot of value on themselves and what they can do in this world. It will help them take risks and do bigger things than just their day to day life tasks. It will also help them keep their eyes open for their purpose, which will ensure they always feel alive and on a path that has meaning.
By definition, your state of mind is the mood you are in at a particular time. While it can change from positive to negative based on certain life events, it shouldn’t change drastically from day to day during everyday life. If you feel like your state of mind is changing from positive to negative on a day to day basis and want to get off the rollercoaster, then this article will give you some tips to help stabilize your mood. Do one of them, and you will find your state of mind is more positive more often. Do them all, and your entire life is likely to change for the better.
1. Find Things Worth Feeling Excited About
When something exciting is going to happen in your day, your state of mind will shift to a highly positive state. You will wake up with energy and jump out of bed – often earlier than you normally get up. You will feel good as you focus on the exciting thing happening. And everything you do will feel lighter, more interesting, and more fun. Basically, you feel more alive!
Why not recreate that feeling on a daily basis and help you maintain a fresh, fun, and positive state of mind like you do on those rare days something exciting is happening? Why not keep yourself in a constant state of ‘Yes! Today I get to do something awesome’?
I know that some people may not feel like there are many (if any) things in their life that make them excited. I get that. When your state of mind sucks, you don’t see a lot of good in your life. That’s why you need to step out of your daily habits and look for something new to add to your life that is good. And if you look, you will find it!
A friend of mine was told to find one thing she was excited about by her therapist, and for weeks she agonized over the fact that she wasn’t excited about anything. But, as she focused on trying to find one thing that she was excited about, she found herself exploring new things in her life. She tried things she had never tried before in an attempt to find that one thing, and because she opened herself up to so many new things, she eventually did find that one thing. It was scrapbooking, which was something she wouldn’t have thought about doing before. She found that scrapbooking was a way for her to unleash her creative side and focus on the good things (instead of the unwanted things) that were happening in her day to day life. Every day she woke up excited as she thought about working on a new page for the day.
You may not find scrapbooking very exciting, and that’s okay. The point is you need to open yourself up to looking for that one thing that makes you want to get out of bed in the morning.
Do that by saying ‘yes’ more often. Allow yourself to try new things. Allow other people to suggest new experiences that you may not think of. The more you do in your days, the more chances you will have to find things that make life worth living.
2. Stop Doing Things You Hate
If you find that your state of mind is bouncing back and forth between positive and negative on a daily basis, then there is a big chance that you are doing some things that you really hate. And, there is a bigger chance that you are doing things you hate as much or more than you are doing things you love.
When you are doing things you love, life feels easier and happier. You don’t struggle with your day as much because you are not putting up a ton of resistance like you do when you are doing things you hate.
For instance, if you hate your job, then you are living a big part of your life doing something you hate. How can you maintain a positive state of mind when you have to go to work and don’t feel good about it? You can’t! Your state of mind is affected negatively as you think about going to work and try to find ways to avoid it (resistance to what’s going to happen), as you go through the motions at work and want to go home (resistance to what’s happening), and sometimes after you leave work.
And sometimes the things you are hate doing are not that big but add up to be just as impactful. For instance, if you don’t mind your work, but hate your drive to work, the chores you have to do when you get home, and the lack of time you have to yourself in the evening, then those things are going to add up and cause your state of mind to bounce back and forth between work, where you feel good, and home, where you feel stressed out.
You can’t tell me it’s not possible to stop doing things you hate. I know from experience that it is possible to change around schedules, habits, and activities so that you are doing things that make you feel good rather than bad.
Sometimes even a minor shift in how you do something can make it less painful and more appealing. So sit down and write down the things you hate doing the most and how you can replace or change them in a way that will help you be happier more often.
3. Become The Person You Most Respect
Warning! Personal growth and getting out of your comfort zone ahead!
You can’t change other people, but you can change yourself. You’ve probably heard that before, but it doesn’t hold a lot of meaning until you actually start to change yourself and become the person that you want others to be in the world. When that happens, you stop focusing on other people so much and your state of mind improves as you focus on how amazing you are.
A lot of things in this life require courage. Without courage, we stay in our comfort zone and miss opportunities, and we live in a state of pain or grief much longer than we need to live there. With courage, we can accomplish great things and create a life that is worth living. If you need some courage right now, then I hope one of the following motivational and inspiring stories about finding courage will inspire you to gather it and find the strength to do what needs to be done.
1. A Story About Finding Courage To Deal With The Upcoming Death Of A Loved One
Carlie’s mom was going to die, it was just a matter of when. She had stage 4 cancer and was given a life expectancy of under 12 months. Carlie was living in denial and terrified to admit that truth to herself.
Carlie spent the first month after her mother’s suggested life expectancy avoiding her mother. She didn’t want to deal with the grief that was welling up inside of her. By avoiding her mother she could focus on other things that didn’t make her feel bad.
One day her mother showed up on Carlie’s doorstep unexpectedly. She had a scrapbook in her arms and said she wanted Carlie to take a look at it. Carlie and her mother sat down at the kitchen table and her mother opened up the scrapbook and went through it page by page with Carlie.
At the end, Carlie knew that she would no longer hide from the upcoming death. She also knew she wouldn’t focus on it either. The scrapbook, full of loving and happy moments between Carlie and her mother, had reminded her that her mother’s life was more important than her death and that Carlie wanted to soak up every moment that she had left with her mother.
She started her own scrapbook that same day focused solely on the journey her and her mother were taking together. Every week she filled it up with memories of what they did. Laughter, fun, love, and adventure were the main themes of the scrapbook.
The experiences she shared with her mother, along with the reminder of those experiences as she scrapbooked them, gave Carlie the courage to spend time with her mother, even when she wasn’t doing well. She cherished the life, not the death, and in the end, she learned that was really mattered the most.
Carlie says that this story is focused on one of the biggest lessons of her life. Moreover, it is one of few motivational and inspiring stories she shares with everyone she meets.
2. A Story About Finding The Courage To Leave An Abusive Spouse
Brittany’s husband was good to her for the first few months of marriage. She got pregnant, they were happy, and everything seemed perfect. Then she found out he was cheating on her.
She confronted him and yelled and screamed and slammed doors. She knew she was overreacting, but she couldn’t believe that he would cheat on her. He didn’t say anything to her. He just walked out the door and didn’t come back for a week. He didn’t answer her calls. He gave her the silent treatment for the entire week and she nearly lost her mind.
Her friend told her that this kind of treatment was emotionally abusive and she needed to make sure she let her husband know that it was not okay to treat her like this. Instead, when her husband came back, she decided to let it go in fear that he would leave again. He never brought up that cheating incident and she was too scared to.
Then a few months later she found out he was still cheating on her and she flipped out again, expect this time he didn’t just leave. He grabbed her by the throat and told her that SHE had pushed him toward cheating because she was so crazy. Then he pushed her into the wall, walked out the door, and didn’t come back for two weeks. Again, he gave her the silent treatment.
When he came back, she had nearly lost her mind. Wondering where he had been, and assuming it was with the woman he cheated with, had left her feeling hopeless and unwanted. She felt weak and powerless, and she knew that if she pushed her husband again he would run back to the arms of his mistress, so she decided once again to let it go.
After she had their baby, her husband became angrier. He didn’t like the baby crying. He didn’t like the fact that his wife couldn’t always keep the house clean and have supper on the table for him. And he didn’t like the attention she was showing to her baby over him.