Here’s the situation: You decide that you want something amazing in your life, you get excited about it, you dream about it, you talk about it, and then after a few days the excitement starts to fade away. Then your mind comes up with justifications as to why you should keep doing what you are doing, and they make a lot of sense. And then, finally, you give up on that amazing thing you wanted.
Often years later you come back to that thing you wanted so badly and feel a twinge of regret for not going after it. Sometimes that twinge can get you to reignite the flame and start dreaming and talking about it again, but if your mind is in the same place, it will ultimately fade away again.
If you are anything like me, you don’t want to live with regret. You don’t want to wake up one day wishing you had gone after that amazing thing. You don’t want to wonder whether or not you could have achieved your biggest dreams in life. It’s a painful way to live, and the more life goes on, the more painful it seems to get.
That’s why you need to retrain your brain to help you get those amazing things. You need to help it stay focused on what you want and passionate about those big dreams you have. You also need to strengthen it and make it strong in the face of fear, failure, struggle or just plain boredom.
When you develop a brain that keeps working on achieving those amazing things you want, your chances of getting what you want will grow exponentially. You may not always end up getting exactly what you were going after, but you will get something similar or better.
For instance, you may not get that elephant you wanted as a pet, but you may be led to a horse that you couldn’t imagine life without.
Sometimes we don’t know what will make us happiest until we start traveling down the road towards what we want.
A Plan To Retrain Your Mind To Commit For The Long Haul
In this article, I’m going to use the example of wanting to travel in an RV full-time. It’s a big dream. The idea is a dream many people have as they think about a way to travel, explore, connect with nature, and get out of their mortgage and debt. It is easily let go, though. It can take some time to achieve, which requires endurance. And it is far from traditional, so keeping a passionate and focused mind around it is important.
But, this plan to retrain your mind will work for anything in your life, not just for retraining your mind to commit to your full-time RV lifestyle. When you get excited about something, use the following plan to help retrain your mind from its desire to let go of the notion to hold onto it and find ways to work towards it.
1. Write Down The ‘Whys’
First, before anything else, get out a piece of paper or large cardstock, or open up a Word document, and write down WHY you want to achieve that amazing thing in your life. The ‘why’ is what got you excited in the first place, so you will want to hold onto it.
It’s been proven over and over again that people who write down their dreams and goals are much more likely to transform what they want into reality. In fact, one study done by Dr. Gail Matthews, a psychology professor at the Dominican University of California, found that if you write down your dreams and goals you are 42% more likely to accomplish them. So that’s a good start to our plan!
You may think that holding onto the reasons why inside your mind is enough, but it’s not. Your mind is trained to give up and let go of an idea that’s too hard, so as it starts to think about reasons why you should let go of the dream, the ‘whys’ will start to dwindle until you can barely feel the excitement you felt in the first place.
BUT, when you write them down and look at them often, you reverberate the importance of achieving these goals to your mind. Your mind can’t just simply let go of the ideas on why you should go after your dreams. It’s forced to see those reasons day in and day out and ponder them over.
And the more your mind ponders them over, the more it becomes a part of your mind’s daily thoughts – or routine. Your mind finds reasons to hold onto those ‘whys’ and you find yourself constantly thinking about achieving those dreams you set out to achieve.
Even if you are not feeling a ton of excitement and passion like you did in the first place, you will still feel many moments of excitement and passion because your mind can’t forget those ‘whys’.
You can do this in any way you want. As long as you can see it and it excites you, it will work. Three big ways to write down your ‘whys’ are:
a) Create a list on a piece of paper. Write down each reason you want to achieve what you want to achieve. Make sure you are detailed about it.
– I want to travel full-time and experience everything this country has to offer. There are so many beautiful places around that I may not get to see otherwise.
– I want to spend more time with my family and less time in the office. Each hour gained with my family will add to my health and my happiness and quality of life.
– I want to spend less time cleaning and more time living! Those hours spent cleaning my big house could be used exploring with my family.
b) Get a big piece of cardstock, and along with your written out reasons, put up pictures that help you visualize your ‘whys’ better.
For example, you can add pictures that showcase exciting spots that you want to see across the country. Doing this will help drive home your ‘whys’ even more.
c) Create a new word document, write down your ‘whys’ and then add pictures in that document. You can find all kinds of pictures to paste into your document that will help emphasize your ‘whys’. Then either print it out or look at it daily on your computer.
2. Immerse Yourself In What You Want To Achieve
Your mind is affected by what it sees. And because the world seems to be a scary place where people focus on fear, the chances are good you will see a lot of things that make you fearful about going after your biggest dreams in life.
For instance, if you want to live full-time in an RV, you may see stories online about how hard it is or how many things there are to consider or how much work is required to get to that point. All of those negative things will make your mind question whether or not you can really do this. And, if the reasons why you can’t become too convincing, you will rip down your ‘whys’ and let your justifications take over.
That’s when you start to head down the road of regret!
Instead of letting that happen, immerse in what you want.
– Go to RV parks and talk to people who are traveling full-time.
– Watch people on YouTube who are living out their dreams of full-time RVing with their kids, pets, or just themselves.
– Read about how to make full-time RVing work for you.
– Read about people who have lived it and learn from their mistakes and successes.
– Immerse yourself into the world of RVs and traveling full-time and give your mind plenty of positives and hopeful thoughts so that it can stay on the right track as you move along.
Another advantage of immersing yourself in what you want to achieve is you start to build a mental plan on how to reach your dreams. This is because the more you learn about what you want, the more you know what you need to do to get there.
For instance, the more you learn about how to travel full-time in an RV, the more you learn about how much money you need to save and make so that you can travel full-time. That helps you figure out how much you need to save per month as part of your budget, or it encourages you to find a new job and make more money. And, once you start saving or making more money, your mind sees your dream as a much more realistic thing, which keeps it focused on going after it.
Lastly, immersing yourself in the world of where you want to be makes going after it less scary and improves the longevity of doing what needs to be done. You can see it’s possible to achieve, so you stay hopeful. Other people are doing it and having success. You can see what needs to be done to help you achieve success. And, your reality of what is possible shifts.