It doesn’t matter if the gestures are big or small, the best romantic gestures show how much you love someone in a big way. You can make the gesture personal, where only you and your partner understand the meaning behind it. Or, you can pick something from the following 21 romantic gestures that have been proven to make people feel like they are truly loved and cherished by their partner.
1. Speak Up And Say The Hard Things
You know how hard it is to say those things that mean the most. The words sit in the back of your throat as you contemplate saying what you want to say, and many times you just can’t force yourself to say those words. Even if you are in a loving, committed relationship, it can be hard to verbalize certain things, such as how much you love them, how much they mean to you, how much you appreciate what they did for you, or even how sorry you are for something you did wrong. Speaking up is a romantic gesture because it shows you love the person enough to say what you got to say.
2. Give Up Something To Help Them
Nothing says I love you more than giving up something you want to so that you can help your partner out. If they are struggling or need help to tackle or finish something, then giving up your night out, lazy day on the couch, or an extra hour of sleep is a romantic gesture that will make them feel special and loved.
3. Touch Their Face After You Kiss
If you have gotten to the point where kisses are quick and cheap, then take a moment to give a nice, slow kiss and touch their face gently afterwards. Lingering for a moment after the kiss to touch them and look in their eyes is a gesture of admiration and love that they totally feel, and it will melt their heart if you do it once in a while.
4. Get Their Favorite Food After A Hard Day
Food is comforting, especially after a hard day in the office or with friends and family. If you know they are stressed or upset, then take the time to make or buy their favorite food and treat them to a comforting dinner at home. They will appreciate the romantic gesture and it will help them feel good and relaxed, which is what coming home to you should do.
Side note: You may think that men are the ones that appreciate good food, but a study found that women respond more to romantic images when they have eaten and feel good. In other words, if you want to add some extra element of romance into the night, and you are dating a woman, feed your woman first!
5. Make The Occasion About Your Partner
Are you at an event for work? Make it more about your partner than about work. Take the time to point out how great they look, how great they make you feel, and how important spending time with them is. Hold their hand and make them feel like they are the only other person in the room, even if you are with a thousand other people.
6. Take The Time To Call During A Busy Day
If you are busy and don’t have much time to do anything, take a few moments to call your partner and spend some quality phone time with them. They will appreciate the gesture of taking a few minutes out just to call them. You could have done anything else with your time, but you chose to connect with them above everything else.
7. Happy ‘Whatever’ Day
Have you ever noticed that someone slows down when they get a gift? They get a little twinkle in their eyes and look at the gift giver with appreciation. We all love to get gifts for no reason. It makes us feel special and thought about, which makes gift giving one of the most awesome romantic gestures you can do. So, get a gift on a random day, wrap it up, put a bow on it, and give it to them just because they are someone you love.
8. Make Them Something
Get your creative hat on and make your partner something. Not only does it take time to make something for someone else, it takes thought and attention, which are two things that show how much you love someone. It could be a picture frame, with a picture of you two. It could be something they have been wanting that you can’t afford to buy, but you can afford to make. Whatever it is, your partner will appreciate the gesture of the entire process.
9. Clean Up
We all feel good when we come home to a clean house or come downstairs and see that the kitchen we had planned to clean is already clean. A clean home decreases stress and makes people happier. That’s something loving that you can do for your partner. When it comes to romantic gestures, everyone can do this!
10. Plan A Quiet Night Together
A romantic gesture that shows someone how much you love them and want to be around them can be as simple as planning a quiet night in together. You can cook together or order in, watch a movie or play a game, and you can spend some time sipping wine and talking about things that matter to you. This is quality time that your partner will love, and if you plan it, then they will love you for it.
11. Send A Love Message
Sending a love message through text or in a simple note stuffed in their coat is an easy but an awesome romantic gesture. When they see the note, you can be sure that they will take a moment to smile and feel loved, no matter what is happening in their day, and that is a great way to say I love you to someone else.
12. Be Patient
If your partner is going off the handle or having a really bad day, be patient. This is one of those romantic gestures that will show them that you love them enough to be a rock when they are flapping in the wind, and you are strong enough to be loving with them even when nobody else would listen to them or take their crap.
13. Change Something
Did you hear about the man whose wife left him because he was unhealthy? He decided to cycle the width of America in an attempt to get healthier and rebuild his marriage. It was a romantic gesture because he focused on her and getting their relationship back on track, and he was taking action – even though it was hard – to change something that directly affected why the breakup occurred in the first place. You don’t have to wait until you break up. If something you do is hurting your partner or relationship, change it. That is a great way to tell them how much they mean to you.
14. Make Up Their Mind For Them
I have a friend who would never get an expensive cream she liked because she felt like her money could be spent on better things. Her partner took it into his own hands and bought her the cream whenever she was out. She felt amazing because she was holding herself back from something that she really wanted, and he was giving her a guilt-free pass to get it.
If your partner is making a big deal about getting something for themselves or doing something for themselves, then they are likely worried about spending the money on themselves, or making it more about them than about other people. Take the initiative to make up their mind for them and get them what they want or schedule in what they want to do. Take away the worry that is holding them back from getting what they want and they will appreciate it.
15. Stay On Top Of Their Interests
If your partner loves a certain band, then stay on top of where that band is and when they are coming close to your town. If your partner loves to go watch new musicals in your town, then keep an eye out for what shows are coming up. If your partner loves a certain actor, then keep your eyes open for shows that include that actor. The simple act of staying on top of their interests and letting them know about events that they may not have been aware about it, is a romantic gesture on its own. It shows you care enough about their interests to stay on top of what’s happening.
16. Contribute To A Ritual
We all have rituals in our lives, and if you pay attention, you will see your partner’s rituals and be able to surprise them by contributing in some way. For instance, if they have a habit of making a certain breakfast on Sunday morning, you can make them that breakfast before they wake up. Or, if they like to hang the tea tower in a certain way after dinner, you can do that for them. There are so many ways you can beat them to the punch and contribute something to their life that you already know makes them feel good.
17. Keep Them Comfortable
One of my friends was taking a shower and came out to see that her husband had set up a heater in the bathroom so that she would be warm when she got out. This was not something he normally did, but she greatly appreciated the effort as she was able to keep warm as she did her after shower routine. Use this gesture for yourself or find other romantic gestures that will keep your partner comfortable.
18. Be Cliche Sometimes
A lot of people think that flowers, chocolates, running baths, and all those other cliche romantic gestures are not that romantic because they are overused, but the truth is they will make your partner feel loved. Why? Because your partner feels like other people are having these cliche things done for them, so they put some value on them and will appreciate it when you also take some time to do them.
For instance, a friend of mine never bought her boyfriend Valentine’s Day gifts because she thought they were stupid. She was joking about it with a friend when her boyfriend pulled her aside and said that he really would like a gift on Valentine’s Day and he didn’t think it was funny that she wasn’t getting one for him. This was a simple reminder to her that valuing the traditional and cliche things was important in a relationship, just as important as spontaneous and unique romantic gestures are.
19. Help Them Form A New Habit
If your partner is trying to do something for their health or happiness, help them stick with the habit so that they don’t give up. For instance, if your partner is trying to wake up an hour earlier, help them wake up with kisses and reminders of why they want to get up earlier. With you on their side as they try to form a new habit, you are giving them the gift of feel better about themselves. Talk about a romantic gesture!
20. Create A New Romantic Ritual And Stick To It
Sometimes the things we know are coming are the most romantic. For instance, one woman’s husband bought her flowers every Friday, and she says it was one of the most romantic gestures her husband ever did for her. If you know your partner loves something, then create a ritual around it so that they can enjoy it daily, weekly, or monthly.
21. Show Your Love In Front Of Others
Lastly, one of the most romantic things you can do is to show others how much you care about your partner. Hold their hand, hug them, kiss them, or smile at them warmly in front of other people. It makes your partner feel good because it shows others that you stand behind them and support them. It gives others an indication of how you act behind closed doors. And, it makes your partner feel better about themselves in other people’s eyes, especially people who make them feel bad or stressed out.