He loves me, he loves me not
Yes, you have a great time together. And, yes, you think you love him. But, when you find yourself asking, “Does he love me?” too often, you may start to put a damper on all the fun you are having together by worrying and questioning his every move. If you want to know if he loves you, then watch for the following 20 signs and then ease your mind knowing that this guy loves you and there’s no doubt about it.
1. He Talks About How Special You Are
The people we love our special. They are unique. They are completely different from all the other people out there who don’t mean much to us. Therefore, if he’s talking about how special you are in any way, shape, or form, he loves you. He’s formed a bond with you and he sees you differently than other females out there. He may tell you how special you are, his friends, his family, or even co-workers. If he’s verbalizing it, he feels it!
2. He Wants To Be With You As Often As Possible
You used to spend many nights alone in your own homes, but now it seems like he always wants to be around you and your free time is pretty much spent together. This is a huge sign that he loves you!
In intimate relationships full of love, we don’t want to be separated from the other person if we don’t have to be because we enjoy being around them so much. The kind of love we have with them makes us feel amazing, and we would much rather be there than with people who we don’t have that bond with.
3. He’s Starting To See Your Annoying Habits
In the beginning, your hormones are raging and you are blinded by them. You can’t see each other’s imperfections because you are totally lost in each other’s eyes. But, once those hormones settle down, you can clearly see the other person’s annoying habits. If he is questioning you about some of the annoying habits you have, but he still sticks around and treats you right, then he’s in love. He clearly sees your faults and he’s willing to stay anyway!
4. He Listens To You With Enthusiasm
If he’s hanging on to your every word about yourself, then he’s in love. His focus is on you and he wants to learn everything he can about you because you are so interesting! He’s investing time into learning about you, which is something we do with the people we love the most. So, if you catch him remembering what you talked about a few days ago, then you know he’s really listening to you!
5. He’s Making Sacrifices For You
If you were sick in the beginning, he may have told you to feel better and then went to hang out with his friends until you were back up to speed. But, now, if you are sick, he is willing to stay at home with you even though he could be going out to a concert where his favorite band will be playing. He would rather help you feel better, and he sacrifices that trip because of it. That’s what love makes you do. It makes you want to take care of someone and make sure they are alright before you go out and celebrate or have fun.
6. He’s Farting Around You All Of A Sudden
Or burping, or forgetting his manners altogether. This may seem gross, and this may be a reason to ask, “Does he love me?” I mean, why would someone be so gross around someone they love?
The fact is that he did all those things before he met you – he just kept them hidden so that he could impress you. Now, he feels attached and secure with you, and he’s not as worried about you running away in disgust. That attachment and security is a sign of love!
7. He Calls You On His Breaks
Instead of going out for lunch or taking some time to just chill, he calls you when he gets a few free minutes. Just the act of talking to you makes him feel great, so you are the only break he needs to get back to work at 100%. Of course, this can apply to anything.
– He calls you at a break during a show.
– He calls you from a family gathering when he can get away from Aunt Bertha.
– He calls you during the few minutes his friends are distracted with wings and beer.
If he’s sneaking in a few minutes here and there to call you, he’s totally thinking about you and missing you, just like someone in love would be doing.
8. He’s Planning A Vacation With You
Vacations are huge. They offer us new experiences and give us a chance to get out of the daily routine for a while. We don’t get a lot of them, so we want to spend them with people we love and enjoy being around. If he’s talking about going on a vacation with you, then he feels bonded enough to you to spend that time with you. That’s a definite sign of love.
9. He’s Becoming More Like You
While two people in love don’t become one person, they do tend to change their habits, mannerisms, speech, and even values a little to match up with the person they love. These can be big or small changes.
For instance, I knew one man who was adamant about calling little areas of nature parks, while his girlfriend called them forests. One day, he suddenly called one park a forest without thinking twice about it, and he knew that he loved her enough to see things from her point of view!
10. You Are Forming Little Rituals Together
You now go out for supper every Wednesday for your favorite show. Or, you always give each other a little kiss before you have to separate. Rituals in our lives are a way to be more comfortable and organized. Most of us simply can’t live chaotically for too long, so we form these rituals by ourselves, and when we are in love, and know that our life now includes another permanent person to share with, we form rituals with our partner.
11. He Seems A Little Scared
Even though everything is going great and you see all kinds of signs that you two are growing closer, he’s still acting a little bit scared. This is because he’s invested his heart into you (he loves you) and he’s a little worried that things may not work out and he’ll get hurt.
Know that his fear may not come out in the form of fear. It may come out in the form of slight suspicion or even jealousy. If he’s not going too crazy and becoming too needy, but he’s still showing signs that he’s scared you are going to leave him or that it’s not going to work out, reassure him!
12. He Keeps Eye Contact With You
You’ve been together for a little while, and he still keeps eye contact with you when you are talking. Guys have a tendency to wander in their mind when they are not interested in something, which means they will wander with their eyes. Their eyes may become glassy or avert to someone else walking by more often than not if they simply are losing interest. If he looks deep into your eyes while you are sharing a conversation, meal, or a laugh, then there is a good chance that he’s absolutely in love with you and can’t look away.
13. He Loves To Cuddle You
Most guys are not cuddly like women. If they are going to cuddle, it is either a way to get some sex or unwind after sex. But, in general, cuddling is not something that they want to do before bed or while watching a movie or any other time. So, if he is suddenly pulling you into a cuddle without the need for sex, then you know he’s grown fond enough of you to want to keep and feel you close.
14. He’s Not Holding His Life Back From You Anymore
You’ve never met his family because he thinks that they are too weird, but now he wants you to meet them – or them to meet you. He still isn’t excited about the idea, but he wants you to be a part of his life, the good and the bad.
If he’s suddenly bringing you into parts of his life that he’s never given you access to before, then his feelings for you have deepened and he loves you enough to show you who he really is.
15. He’s Protecting You More
Once a man falls in love with a woman, he wants to protect her. It’s just a natural instinct that men have. They are protectors, and they will do and say things to protect the things and people in their life they care about. This is why if you put down one of their friends or try to distance them from their important relationships in the beginning, you will get dumped. They love those people, so they are going to protect them over some random girl they just met. If you are now one of the people that they ferociously protect in all situations, you know that you are loved by them.
16. He Authentically Smiles A Lot With You
He has a great time with you and he’s not shy to crack an authentic smile, which he may have hidden in the beginning. Guys are taught that smiling too much is a feminine trait or just not attractive to women, so you will notice that many guys don’t crack smiles too often when you are dating them. They may smile charmingly. Or, they may give you a knowing smile. But, an authentic ‘I am happy with you’ smile is not something you will see too often until they are totally comfortable that you like them and are sticking around. So, when he can’t help but be comfortable enough with you to smile, you know that he’s in love.
17. He’s Buying You Stuff
I’m not just talking about flowers and chocolates. I’m talking about cheesy little gifts that remind him of you, as well as bigger gifts that he’s heard you talk about and know you will like. A guy who loves a girl is going to want to please her, and gifts are the most common way to surprise and please someone at the same time.
If he doesn’t have a lot of money, then you may be getting some smaller gifts. But, they will still be gifts that remind him of you or that you have talked about. No matter what size the gifts are, he’s going out of his way to spend money on you, so appreciate anything he buys!
18. His Kisses Feel Different
Whether you are making love or just making out, his kisses have changed from passionate to loving. There is sense of tenderness and compassion behind his kisses, and he looks in your eyes a little longer than he used to before and after you’ve kissed.
This is one of the top signs that he’s fallen in life, so if you are asking, “Does he love me?” and you’ve seen this, then stop asking… you now know. He’s head over heels in love with you, and he cares about you, probably more than he’s willing to admit at this point.
19. He Tells You That He Loves You
There are a lot of girls who say, “He’s told me that he does, but does he love me really?” It’s as if they are not willing to accept his words or don’t trust him at face value. The fact is that if he’s said he loves you, and he shows at least a few of the above signs, then he does love you.
Don’t worry if a few of the signs are missing. Don’t worry if he’s not taking you to see his parents yet, or if he’s not buying you stuff, or if he just can’t get into cuddling. All guys are different when it comes to showing their love, and just because he doesn’t do one common sign of love doesn’t mean he doesn’t love you.
If he’s told you that he loves you, then take his word for it! Love him enough to be confident in what he says and trust him. If you stop worrying and just trust, you will be able to clearly see just how much he truly loves you.