November 16, 2015

13 Important Details On How To Be A Better You

When it comes to how to be a better you, the typical speech goes something like this – follow your dreams and believe in yourself. While these are very good tips, they don’t give you details on what to do but, rather, an abstract vision of what you should be doing. If you want to make the most out of your life, you need the details.

This article will talk about some of those finer details that will really allow you to progress into a better version of yourself with each step you take. Remember, all of these things can take some time to add to your life. You have to change your attitude, beliefs, and habits in order to get comfortable doing the things that make you a better you. Even though change can be hard, it is necessary for real growth of the mind, body, and soul.

As you work towards making these things a permanent part of your life, you will notice positive shifts in how you feel about yourself and how you interact with the world, which will motivate you to keep growing.

1. Be Authentic

If you don’t embrace any other of these tips, embrace this one because the other tips will start to come to you naturally. Being authentic is the only way to make everything else better for you. It is the key to developing the mindset and way of life that helps you be the best you possible.

What most people don’t understand is that they have what it takes to be successful and loved, but it can only be brought to the table when they are authentic. When they are living from a place of falsehood, they can’t make the choices and changes they need to make for a better life. It’s impossible!

The truth will set you free! It helps you to feel better about yourself and what you do, and will help you go after the life you want. The more truthful you are, the better your life will get.

Authenticity comes from awareness. This means getting still, listening to your true self, meditating, being mindful, and being honest with yourself. When you do these things, your authentic self will start to become more and more present, and soon you will be acting from a place of authenticity naturally.

2. Accept Nastiness From Others

You don’t have to let yourself get walked on, but it is important to understand that other people are going to be nasty towards you when you are being your authentic self. People don’t like people who are different. People don’t like people who go after their dreams and, even worse, achieve them. They will accept you as long as you are like them, but when you start to grow and become different, they will get scared of you, which will translate into some nasty behavior.

I’d like to think that one day we all will be working on becoming better people, and nobody will fear change or uniqueness in other people. But, until that day, don’t take their ugliness personally or your authentic self will start to slowly retreat and you will revert back to one of the people in the crowd who doesn’t get to become a better version of themselves.

3. Make Love The Status Quo

Love for yourself and love for others is where every choice should stem from. You need to live in a place of love in order to make decisions that are in your best interest and that result in a better you. If you live in a place of anger, fear, or hate, then you will make choices based on those emotions, and they won’t give you the results that inspire or encourage you.

In order to make love the status quo, you have to be able to see the good in other people. You have to have compassion and friendship with everyone that comes into your live, or you will look for the negative instead of the good. When you can search for the good in other people – and in situations, love will become your existence.

4. Give Yourself What You Need

When you deny yourself what it needs, you end up doing more damage to yourself by promoting feelings of regret, longing, and lack. How can you be a better you when you are stuck in these emotions? They keep you stuck in the past and miserable in the present, and that will keep you stuck in life.

Giving yourself what you need doesn’t mean buying everything in sight or eating everything in sight, but it does mean recognizing what your mind, body, and soul really need to feel refreshed and alive. When you can recognize that you really do need a break from work, and then give it to yourself, you can come back with a sense of renewal that helps you put forth the energy and passion to create a better life.

5. Stop Listening To Other People

Other people have their own set of judgments, fears, faith, and beliefs. And they will try to make you become more like them at every turn because they feel like they are living the right way – the only way. But the truth is there is not one way to live. There are many different ways to live, some good and some not so good.

If you listen to other people and live like they want you to live, then you will start to life inauthentically, which will promote a level of resentment towards those people. When you live with resentment, you are not creating a better you; in fact, you are creating a worse you! Resentment is a very low energy to live from and it will attract other negative emotions such as doubt, anger, revenge, and maybe even depression.

6. Stop Trying To Please Other People

Other people may not be directly telling you how to live your life, but they may be demanding things from you that causes you to change how you live. When you do that, you can’t be yourself and you can’t become a better you.

Whether you are trying to please other people to get them to like you, accept you, or feel better about themselves, you are doing yourself a disservice. You make choices based on what they want, not what you want, which may help them live a better life, but not you.

7. Stop Trying To Live Traditionally

You may want a traditional life, and that is fine, but most of us need to get out of the conventional way of living to become a better version of ourselves. In other words, if it doesn’t fit with your authentic self, stop doing what is conventionally ‘right’.

Get ready for people to be upset with you, though. Your friends, parents, and peers that are living traditionally will judge you and try to make you feel as though you are not living life in the ‘right’ way.

For instance, the decision not to have kids can be very stressful for some people, even if they know that they don’t want kids in this life. People will tell them that they are not normal, contributing to society, or giving them the grandchild, niece, nephew, or godchild that they expected. But, their expectations is not a good enough reason to go against your values and try to become more traditional.

8. Cut Certain People Out Of Your Life

Certain people are holding you back from becoming a better you. We are told that we are not supposed to remove people from our lives, but the truth is that doing so may be the only way to get free of their chains and make decisions that are better suited for us.

– Pessimistic people will make your goals seem impossible to reach because they believe that nothing ever works out in this life.
– Low energy people will force you to do nothing towards your goals as you hang around with them because they don’t want to do anything in life.
– Small minded people will beg you to avoid taking risks because their fear is massive when it comes to stepping outside of their comfort zone.

All of these people will affect your choices negatively and lower your energy. If you want to be a better you, your energy needs to be high and in the flow, not low and working against the flow.

9. Keep Things Simple

Don’t overcomplicate your life with too many goals, too many changes, or too many of anything. We often think that we need to approach life in a ‘go big or go home’ way, but all that does is muck things up and keep things from working out.

This also applies to your thoughts. Don’t try to make something bigger than it is. Don’t let your imagination make something that is actually quite simple into an overwhelming scenario that keeps you stuck, fearful, or frantic.

Keep things as simple as possible in every aspect of your life. Boil things down and find the simple answer and choice. When you do you will become much happier in life, which will allow you to make the choices that allow you to become a better you.

10. Prioritize Your Life

You can’t do it all. If you are working 12 hours daily on your career success, you are missing out on family moments that would strengthen your relationships. There is only so much time in your day, and you need to prioritize what you want to do with it.

Whatever you choose as a priority, live with it. Give yourself permission to do what you want to do and not feel guilty about what you are missing. When you can live your life on your own terms, without guilt, you will make the choices that benefit you the most.

If you can’t get past your guilt, then that is a sign that you are not prioritizing your life right. You may need to find more balance to get what you want out of life and make the most of it. Only you know where your true priorities lie. If you are not totally sure, there are tons of quizzes online that can help you discover where your priorities lie, like this one Don’t take them too seriously, but let them guide you towards your true desires.

11. Allow Others TO Be Their Authentic Selves

In order to follow your dreams and believe in yourself, you have to let others do the same. When you can truly accept that everyone is on their own path in life, you will have a much easier time making choices that help you become a better you. In addition, when you allow others to be their authentic self, you stop trying to control them and judge them, which frees up more time for positive emotions that benefit your life, such as gratitude and faith.

Try to listen to really listen to other people and see where they are coming from. If you can’t understand, then don’t judge; instead, simply allow. Unless it is directly hurting other people or the world around them, release the need to be right and allow others to have their own beliefs and way of living.

12. Take Big Risks

When it comes to focusing on how to be a better you, it is important to realize that risks are a part of your future. They are the only way to find out what you are made of and what is waiting out there for you.

It may be easier to take small risks, such as trying a new food or going to a new place, but bigger risks, the kind that make you feel that white hot terror before you move forward, are the ones that are going to change your life in a big way. Public speaking, changing jobs, and moving are all big risks that can have a big impact on your life.

13. Surround Yourself With Honest Friends

Surrounding yourself with people who care about you is important. When they really care about you, they will help you discover simple truths about yourself that you need to know, both indirectly and directly.

We can’t acknowledge what we can’t see. But, acknowledging our weaknesses and mistakes is what helps us become better and more of who we want to be. If you have honest friends, they will be willing to help you discover the things that you need to change and even give you a kick in the butt when you need to take a step forward that scares you.

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