It can be difficult not to get caught up in the negativity around you. The news, friends, family, strangers, and social media can all be constantly talking about the bad, the disagreements, and the chaos going on the world, and that can create a mind that is focused on everything that causes unhappiness, upset, and worry in your life. It’s hard to live a stress-free life when you are focused on events that are negative.
So, how can you gain peace of mind when other people are so adamant that you are constantly reminded of why you should be stressed out? The truth is that you may never gain a complete peace of mind about what is going to happen in your future or what is happening in the world around you right now, but you can live in a state of mind that allows you to be as calm and stress-free as possible by using the following tips.
1. Keep Things In Perspective
Always live in the truth. Stay calm, focused on what is, and don’t add anything into the equation unless it actually presents itself. Your imagination can move much quicker than reality, and it can often be much worse than reality too.
I’m speaking from experience here. Back in September of 2001, my mind raced to what ‘was’ going to happen. I can tell you now that nothing I imagined came to pass, but at the time I had no peace of mind about my present or my future. In fact, I made myself sick over what I thought was going to happen.
That experience taught me that blowing things out of proportion with guesses about what could happen was the worst thing I could do for my mindset and my happiness in life. And ever since that day, I have made it a point to keep things in perspective in my own life and in what was going on around me.
2. Stop Looking At The Bad Stuff
Some people feel that have to be informed about every single thing that happens in the world, but this is not the case. Unless you are a news reporter, your life will be just fine if stop focusing on everything that’s going on outside of your life and start focusing on your own.
The more you hear negative things, the more your subconscious mind shifts into a negative state. You start to believe that bad things are the norm, and you have a hard time accepting positive things into your belief system.
If you can’t see this in yourself, go out and talk to someone who watches the news daily and keeps as current as possible on events going on around the world. Ask them a question about an event or the future and you will hear the pessimism in their voice. They will have plenty of details to back up their negative viewpoints, and they will all be from the things they have heard and seen – usually not directly in their own life, but in the news and media.
3. Expect The Best
You are going to expect something to happen in your future anyway, so expect the best. Expect a good day. Expect a good tomorrow. And imagine your life going just the way you think it will.
A friend of mine used to work in a senior’s home, and he said that one thing he heard a lot from the seniors was that they wish they hadn’t wasted time expecting the worst. They were some of the calmest people he had ever met because they had spent their lives worrying about things that never came to pass and realized that having a peace of mind was the best way to live.
That is a great lesson that you don’t have to learn for yourself. You can take what they know and apply it your life starting today.
4. Work Towards Your Best Life
If you truly want to expect the best, then put in the effort to achieve the best. The more action you take on the life you want, the more likely you are to get it.
And, honestly, even if you don’t get the results you want right away, you will feel great because you are doing life instead of letting it do you. When you let other people and circumstances decide how your life is going to go, you will definitely life in a state of fear and worry.
Working towards your best life means making goals and doing things daily towards those goals. It also means developing habits that help you get the life you want, such as exercising and being productive with your day.
5. Take Time Out For Yourself
If you keep yourself in a constant state of stress, then you are not going to be able to achieve any kind of peace of mind. Too many responsibilities and things to worry about will be floating around in your mind, and the stress of that will drain you and add to the chaos that is already going on in your mind.
Taking time out for yourself means doing what you love to do. This could be working in the garden, watching a good movie, reading a good book, or hanging out with a loved one. Whatever makes you feel good and alive should be something you do for yourself every day.
6. Keep Things Clean And Organized
This is something that a lot of people don’t think about, but it is a powerful tool for your peace of mind. A messy house means that things are always in a state of disarray. It’s hard to find what you need. It’s annoying to deal with the dirt and clutter. It’s frustrating to think about what you have to do to get the house clean. And that adds up to stress.
Your home, car, and office can all cause stress when they are messy and cluttered. But, they are things that are totally in your control. If you develop a system to keep them clean and clutter-free, you peace of mind will thank you. It will be one less big thing that you have to deal with in your day.
7. Don’t Hang Around Pessimistic People
This is so important. Hanging around by yourself is better than hanging around a pessimistic person. They will always add to your fears, worries, or stress.
I had a friend who was kind of pessimistic, and it was hard to be around her. But, her brother was the worst. We would all get together to celebrate something and after a few drinks he would start talking about all of his conspiracy theories and depressing viewpoints. If you tried to be cheerful towards him, he ramped up his pessimism to a higher level. If you have ever seen Debbie Downer on SNL, then you have a good idea of what this guy was like. For some reason, I always got stuck sitting beside him, and after a few drinks, my mind was full of negative thoughts that made me feel stressed and anxious about life for days, weeks, and sometimes months.
8. Distract Yourself
Sometimes nothing you do can stop those negative thoughts, worry, fear, and anxiety from coming. This is when you have to take control and distract yourself. Don’t just sit around and stew in those thoughts because that is a complete waste of time. Instead, get busy doing something else.
– Watch a funny movie that demands your focus.
– Take a nap.
– Go out and shop.
– Phone a friend.
– Work on creating something that demands your focus.
– Use a guided meditation or hypnosis MP3 (don’t try to do it alone because you won’t be able to focus).
– Get an adult coloring book and let your thoughts drift away as you color in-between the lines.
There are a ton of things you can do, but the trick is to take your mind off your worries and get busy doing something else. You will find that this reduces your worry and helps you gain a new perspective on the situation when you find yourself thinking about it again.
9. Learn More About What’s Bothering You
Sometimes ignorance is what causes us to stray from having a peace of mind. For instance, if you are diagnosed with a health issue and become too fearful to look it up, it will be hard to think anything but the worst. But, when you decide to learn more about the symptoms, treatments, and diagnosis, you will find that you will have more control over what is going to happen, which will give you a peace of mind around the future of your health.
10. Get Control Of Your Relationships
Your relationships need your attention. All of them. If you let your relationships take on a course of their own, then they can become stressful to your life. Your relationships are where you turn to for support and guidance. They can make you feel worse about your life or better, and you have complete control over that by creating the healthiest relationships possible. Therefore, take the time to communicate with the people in your life, nurture your relationships, and keep the bond strong.
11. Stop Try To Control Everything
There are some things that you can’t control, no matter how much you wish you could. Things happening outside of your life, how other people react to you, how strangers treat you, and how your plans actually turn out are all things that you can’t control. And if you try to control them you are going to be stressed out more often than not.
Developing an attitude of going with the flow and letting things go that you can’t control will help you increase your happiness exponentially. For instance, if you get a flat tire, you can stress out about it, worry about not being where you are supposed to be, and scream and cry, but that doesn’t fix the situation – all it does is stress you out. If you accept what happened and admit that it is out of your control, you will reduce the anxiety and stress around the flat tire by 99%.
12. Practice Mindfulness
Mindfulness benefits your physical and mental health in a big way. When you get stressed about the future or the past, your body also gets stressed. Higher blood pressure, gastrointestinal issues, hormonal chaos, and inability to sleep are just a few of the things that affect your body negatively. The longer you stay stressed, the more problems can occur, both mentally and physically.
Being mindful means you are focused on the moment. There is not a lot to stress about when you are focused on the moment.
There are many ways to practice being more mindful, including meditation, breathing exercises, and focusing on your senses (touch, hearing, smell, and sound). And, the simple act of paying attention to what is going on around you will keep you mindful and help you maintain a peace of mind.
13. Let Go Of Social Anxiety
Millions of people deal with social anxiety to one extent or another. Social anxiety occurs when you fear social situations. Since so much of our day is spent interacting with other people, social anxiety can be a huge roadblock to peace of mind.
If you are living with this disorder, it’s important to know that you can overcome it. Using the right techniques, you can limit the stress you have around social interactions and free up your mind to focus on other things, such as things you enjoy, need to do, or want to do.
14. Do What You Need To Do
Putting things off is detrimental to your peace of mind. You will always have something to think about, worry about, and be anxious about if there are still things on your to-do list. It’s impossible to stay in the moment if you can’t stop thinking about what needs to be done.
The best way to get it done is to do it quickly. Do those things that you always put off as soon as you get up – or as soon as you can. Even if it feels hard to do, having the mentality ‘I better get it over with!’ is better than ‘I will put it off until later!’ You will feel much better once it is done.
15. Remember That Your Thoughts Create Your Reality
You are going to think. You can’t stop it. But, you can choose how you think. And when you understand that your thoughts are creating your reality, you will be more likely to make a conscious choice to think positively, despite what is happening.
Your thoughts dictate what you will or will not do in your day. Your thoughts dictate how you react to situations and people. They dictate how you feel in every situation. They are the driving force behind your life, so they are something that you need to be attention to daily.
The simple awareness of this truth will help you think more positively instantly. At the core, you do not want to inflict pain on yourself. You do not want to be in a state of distress. You want a peace of mind, which is a basic right that we all have. And because it is a matter of choosing how to think, you can have it. Since we tend to choose the choice that causes us less pain, positive thinking becomes the obvious choice.