Do you feel life is passing by?
Do you feel stuck? Do you feel like you are failing in life? Do you feel like you are not getting the things done that matter and you are living one wasted day after another? It can sound dramatic, but when you feel like you are wasting time – precious moments out of your allotted time on this planet, it is an extremely painful feeling that causes anxiety and depression. There are some things to remember to help you feel better during these times. In fact, I guarantee that once you commit these to your memory and start to incorporate them into your beliefs, you will no longer feel like you are wasting your days away.
1. Tomorrow Is A New Day
To help reduce anxiety and depression over a wasted day, week month, or life, one of the best things to remember is that no matter what has happened, tomorrow is a new day. You can start doing what you want to do. You can make it more meaningful and full. You can recreate your life tomorrow if you want!
I want to stress that this is true for everyone, regardless of their life or age. For instance, at the age of 87, Charles Eugster realized that this body was deteriorating. Like most people his age, he felt old. But, instead of letting the rest of his life pass him by in a deteriorating state, he went to the gym and rebuilt his body from scratch! Now he is 96-years-old, and he is considered the fittest senior citizen on the planet by some. Moreover, he has a full life of speaking, writing, and even fashion designing!
2. You Can Force Yourself To Do Things You Don’t Want To
The chances are good that a lot of things you want to do are hard so you would rather not do them as much as you feel they would benefit your life. In that case, excuses are easy to make, and you go about your day knowing you should do whatever it is, but find it easier not to.
The good news is that you can force yourself to do things you don’t want to do. You do it all the time! You talk to someone you don’t want to talk to. You go somewhere you don’t want to go. You do something for someone else that you would rather not do. You are really good at forcing yourself to do things you don’t want to.
In other words, if you can convince yourself you must do something, you probably will despite how much you don’t want to do it. This is where sitting down and writing out exactly what you want and why you want it is beneficial. It gives you powerful reasons to do something, despite the desire not to do it.
For example, if you have been trying to start working out, then each day you ‘miss’ your workout, you can start to feel as though you have been wasting time. “If I had just started when I wanted to, I would already be fit!” But, you can’t go back in time. You can only decide that tomorrow, no matter what, you are going to work out. Write out exactly what you want to do when it comes to exercise and why you must do it. As you go to bed tonight, read your list and declare to yourself that tomorrow, no matter what you will start working out because you have to. No excuses. If you can do things for other people that you don’t want to do because you must do them, then you sure as hell can do things for yourself that will benefit your life in some way! The declaration to ‘just do it’ will help you take action tomorrow even if you don’t want to. And, once you start getting into the groove of doing what you need to do, it will happen much easier!
3. There Is No Right Way To Live Life
This is one of the things to remember when you just don’t feel good or accomplished enough. A lot of people compare themselves to their old classmates, friends, family, and co-workers. They see other people doing what they think are great things, and that’s when they start to feel like their life is a waste. But, the truth is that we all have different values and different paths in life, so you can’t compare yourself to anyone else.
You don’t need to be the first to accomplish something. You don’t need to accomplish what other people are accomplishing. In fact, you don’t know whether or not they are accomplishing what you think they are accomplishing!
For instance, some people seem to have it easy when it comes to managing their weight. They appear as if they are making great decisions in their life towards nutrition and exercise and that they know they have it all together. But, many of those people think they are not good enough. They are comparing themselves to other people and beating themselves up over not doing what they think they should be doing.
Comparing yourself to others is the ultimate way to feel like life is getting away from you. Of all the things to remember for more life happiness and fulfillment, this might be the number one thing.
4. Focusing On The Present Moment Gives You More Time
As you think about all the time that has passed, are you think about the present moment? Nope! You can’t be! One of the most important things to remember about life is that focusing on the present moment is what helps you make the most out of it.
In fact, research has shown that when you are focused on the moment, your brain becomes more fully engaged, and you actually perceive time as having slowed down. You start to feel more in control of your life and time, and you instantly feel like you are using your time more wisely.
Think of it this way – when you are on vacation, you probably feel like there is tons of time. You enjoy each moment without anxiety or stress about the future. You take the time to really look around and be present so that you can take in the new sights, smells, and experiences. While you are experiencing your vacation, time seems to be stretched out and the day is longer. Especially if you are on a crowded flight squished in between two people!
The same is true for children. They don’t live in the past or feel anxious about what is to come. Instead, they live in the present moment and enjoy it. They feel like they get the most out of each moment, even if they didn’t get their way. They don’t regret not doing something because they do what feels right in the moment. And, time is never an issue.
If you can live in the present moment, you can shift your focus from the past that you feel has been wasted, and start focusing on what really matters – the here and now. When you are focused on the now, you will want to make the most out of it because it will be so clear how valuable this moment really is.
5. Your Curiosity Can Help You Make More Out Of Your Life
If you think life is passing you by, then there is one emotion that can help you get more grounded in the moment, and that’s curiosity. Being curious helps you act like you are on vacation, which is a great way to stretch out time and make the most of it! Except, since you are at home, you can make the most of it in a way that benefits your everyday life!
Being curious means want to explore and discover. It means wanting to know more about what is happening and really understand it. It means wanting to put aside your worries and thoughts and focus on what is happening in this moment so that you can get a grasp on it.
For instance, if you are with an annoying family member who makes you regret every second with them, then it’s time to get curious! Try to figure out why they think the way they think or act the way they act. You will be amazed at how this shift in perception towards them will help you feel better about the moment and feel more engaged with what is happening.
The next time you start to feel like you are wasting time, get curious. This will help you use your time wisely by learning something new, doing something new, experimenting, and helping yourself to grow in some way. You won’t be able to sit around and do nothing!
As a bonus, the more curious you get, the more you will want to do the things that matter. You will want to see how they play out in your life and whether or not they are going to have the affect you think they will have.
6. You Don’t Have To Follow Routine Every Day Of Your Life
I know plenty of people who feel like life is passing them by because they are doing the same thing day in and day out. Their routines have them stuck in a time warp where one day bleeds into the next, and they never feel like they are really living, even if they are doing things that they enjoy on some level.
When you go on vacation, you not only experience new things, you mix up your routine. You do things that you don’t normally do in an order you wouldn’t normally do it. You wake up earlier. You eat breakfast when you normally don’t eat until lunch. You watch the stars when you normally don’t look at the sky at night. You do things that are not in your everyday routine, and this helps draw out the perception of time being longer even more.
You can do this at home too. Do things differently. For instance, instead of watching TV at night, take some time to spend quality time with a loved one. You will notice that time will seem to expand, and you will feel like you are being more productive with it. You will look back on that time, tomorrow, as if you did something worthwhile, simply because you broke your routine and focused on doing something different that mattered to you.
7. Get In The Flow Of Life
One of the biggest things to remember is that life isn’t going to play out exactly the way you want it to. Stop forcing yourself to do things that don’t align with the way your day wants to play out. Doing that causes you to lose your focus on the present and, therefore, causes you to feel like your time is flying by.
Moreover, doing things that don’t align with who you are will make you feel unhappy, which plays a huge part in making you feel like your life is passing you by!
Staying in the flow will help you make good decisions that benefit you. It will help you be more present and adapt to life as it comes. Ironically, it will help you feel more in control of your life than living by a strict schedule will because you will be able to roll with the punches and overcome obstacles easier. Being in the flow means accepting what life throws at you instead of trying to mold every moment in a particular way.
The fact is that many of us are scheduling our days to look perfect, and when unexpected obstacles arise, our day can no longer work out the way we expect it to. That can cause us to feel like we are not getting what we want to get done, which can cause that whole ‘life is getting away from me’ feeling.
Being in the flow allows you to accept that things aren’t always going to work out the way you want, and allow you to be OK with that when it happens.
For instance, let’s say you have scheduled a bunch of tasks for today that will help you meet your short-term goals. But, you suddenly become very tired and can’t focus on what you are supposed to be doing. You keep trying to push through, but you can’t because the fatigue is making you unable to get anything done. The minutes turn into hours and before long you have gotten nothing done and feel a lot of resistance towards that fact. In fact, you feel like you wasted your day.
If you had been in the flow, you would have met the fatigue with a realization that it came for a reason. Maybe you were getting sick. Maybe you have been overworking your body. Maybe there is a bigger issue going on. Whatever it is, you would have known that you had to rest before you were able to do anything well, and that realization and acceptance would have helped you feel like you did the best you could for the day instead of feeling like it got away from you.