October 29, 2015

Extreme Self-Esteem: The Pitfalls It Brings

Some people are confident, which is a good trait to have for themselves and the world around them. But there is a point where some people cross a line from confidence into extreme self-esteem. At that point, they can affect their life and others lives in a negative way. What does extreme self-esteem look like?

Narcissism: The Entitled And Important Person

Ironically, narcissism can develop from low self-esteem. It can occur as a response to feeling inferior because it gives the person power to feel better about themselves. But, it can also occur when someone is pampered and develops a warped sense of entitlement. Either way, to an outsider, it appears to be an issue of extreme self-esteem.

Narcissistic people feel as if they are more important and better than everyone else. They feel entitled and will push other people out of the way to get what they deserve. They want everyone to like them, but they are really unlikable because they lack compassion for other people’s needs as they are so concerned on their own.

I have a neighbor who is narcissistic. She really believes that her needs are the most important and she will go out of her way to make sure that everyone knows how important she is. She is also not afraid to let everyone know that they have betrayed her in some way – even though they have done nothing to her. And to top it off, she has no compassion for other’s needs or feelings and will do to others the very thing she gets upset about.

Lack Of Empathy: Unwilling To Do Things For Others

When someone becomes too focused on their self-worth, they can start to put themselves on a pedestal above other people. This promotes a lack of empathy towards others because they simply seem less than as a person, and their needs are not considered as important.

For instance, someone who is really successful can easily view themselves as superior to others. They know that success takes hard work, and they also know that they are willing to put in that hard work while others are not. This can cause them to view others as lazy, and instead of having compassion for others, they judge them and minimize their worth. They may even boast about themselves to put others down. And, they may abuse their relationships because they feel their beliefs are more right and their needs are more important.

The truth is that everyone is doing the best with what they know and what they have. Coming from a place of judgment not only disconnects you from others and how we are all different, but it also affects your relationships negatively. Broken friendships, divorce, and lost business partners are just a few of the consequences of this behavior.

Dangerous Behavior: Putting Themselves And Others In Danger

Lastly, someone who has extreme self-esteem may overestimate their abilities in life. Instead of using caution or common sense, they can easily jump into something dangerous that is beyond their skill level. This can put everyone at risk, including themselves.

Furthermore, they may become blind to their own faults, which can lead to an inactive life. For instance, someone who believes that they are better than everyone else, may not believe they need to work on personal growth. This hinders their ability to become more successful in all areas of their life, which will have a negative impact on their future and ability to adapt to new situations.

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