The best way to reduce a fear is to face it head on. Instead of cowering under your blankets at the monster in your closet, you should get out of bed, turn the light on, and prove to yourself that nothing is there. Too many people stay under their blankets to avoid facing failure, even though it is never as scary as it seems in the light! If you want to overcome your fear of failure, then use the following tips to make it so tiny that it simply doesn’t have the power to hold you back.
Look To People Who Have Thrived After Failure
Scott Adams had a lot of failures, yet he ended up creating Dilbert, one of the most famous comic strips ever. He says that he embraces failure and then ‘picks its pocket’. If you want to learn about how to deal with failure, then his book on failure is obviously something you want to check out.
But, his story is not the only story out there. Many successful people have big stories about finding success after a lot of fails. These are the people that can help you see your fear of failure in a different light. Their stories of dealing with it, overcoming it, and ultimately appreciating it, are exactly what you need to make failure less scary.
Develop Your Skills
Playing tennis is scary if you don’t know how to play tennis. And you will probably fail if you have no skills (unless you are a natural). So, what is the best way to increase your chances of success and make tennis less scary? Develop your tennis playing skills!
That simple truth can apply to everything in life. And, the good news is that we have all kinds of information at our fingertips to help us develop our knowledge or technique. All we have to do is go out and use what we learn to develop our skills.
Some skills you develop for one goal will help you out with another goal. Or, you can combine skills to increase your confidence when approaching something new. But the point is that having experience is one of the best ways to move through your fear of failure.
Build A Plan
Failure can happen with or without a plan, but your confidence will increase when you have a plan set in place to achieve your goals. The very action of taking a predetermined step that has the potential to move you towards your goal will help remove the unknown and make you feel more confident.
Again, reading other people’s success stories can come in handy here. Many people are willing to share their blueprint for success, and while following it doesn’t guarantee your success, it does increase your chances exponentially!
Recognize That Fears Don’t Often Come True
Think back to a situation where you were afraid of failing, but didn’t. Or, possibly a situation where you were afraid of failing, did fail, but didn’t feel horrible about it afterward. When you look back, you will clearly see that failure’s impact on life is not as scary as we think it will be.
So, instead of focusing on failure and how bad it will be, try focusing on overcoming it despite what happens. Visualize yourself overcoming obstacles and failures and moving forward until you reach your goals. Imagine yourself teaching others how you overcame your failures and found success. All of this positive visualization will help you shrink down the fear of failing.
Fear Of Failure Is Not Going To Go Away
The bottom line is you can’t eliminate the fear of failure. It will always be there. It is human nature to want to succeed and avoid failing. But, by reducing its size, you can take away its power to hold you back from going after the things you want in life.