It doesn’t matter whether you have been through a breakup, are facing a major change in your life, have had a moment of clarity about who you are who you want to be, or anything else, because reinventing yourself is doable by anyone at any point in their life. The great thing about life is that you can always choose a different path and choose to be someone different. You are not doomed to be who you are today for the rest of your life! This article will talk about how to reinvent yourself at any point in your life, regardless of what has happened or who you want to become.
The problem with reinventing yourself is that it can be hard to do. I’m sure there are things you declared you were going to do years ago that you still haven’t done. For instance, I know a lady who is 69 years old and has been declaring that she wants to lose 50 pounds since she was about the age of 30. Obviously, she wants to reinvent her body, but reinventing her body has been very hard to do.
If you’ve failed at reinventing yourself in the past, you’re not alone! And if you want to learn how to reinvent yourself right now, you are also not alone. The truth is that the majority of us are always striving to become different, so most of us are at a point where we would like to reinvent ourselves.
Why Reinvent Yourself?
If you don’t like where you are, it’s important to reinvent yourself. If you stay the person you are and keep doing the things you do, and you are not happy, then you are going to stay unhappy until you make some changes. You may convince yourself that life is great once in a while, but more often than not you’ll be disappointed.
The fact that you have the ability to reinvent yourself is enough of a ‘why’ for most people. Why should you stay the same person day in and day out for your entire life when you have the ability to make little and big changes and become someone you want to be?
Because we have the ability to reinvent ourselves, we should be able to do it as often as we want to. Yes, sometimes it will happen after our life changes in a big way, such as when we go through a breakup or divorce, or when the death of someone we love occurs. But, sometimes we want to reinvent ourselves so that we can feel like we’re living our life to its fullest instead of living a life that we are not happy with.
How To Reinvent Yourself In 3 Steps
Step 1: Commit To The New You
Whether you are forced to reinvent yourself or just want to change into someone different, commit to the vision you see of yourself. It may be someone stronger, someone more organized, someone more in line with their purpose – it doesn’t matter, whatever it is you have to commit to it. You can do this in a couple of ways.
First, talk as if you are who you want to be. For example, I had a friend who worked as a housekeeper for years until she decided to start writing e-books and sell them on Amazon. When people asked what she did for a living, she didn’t have a clear answer. She didn’t feel confident enough to say she was a writer, so she would mumble something about being in between jobs. One day when she was in the grocery store, she was approached by one of those people who try to sell you the credit card for the store, and when asked what she did for a living she replied that she was a writer. She felt empowered saying the words, and that was the day she really reinvented herself into a writer. From that moment forward, she felt like a writer and she did things to advance her writing career.
Second, stop making excuses. Stop telling yourself that you will do something when you have enough money or time. Those are excuses NOT to reinvent yourself into someone you want to be. We all have enough time to do what we really want to commit ourselves to doing. We find the time. And when it comes to money, you may not have enough money in the bank to become you want to become, but you can develop the resources to get enough money in the bank to become you want to become. It’s time that we ditch the mentality that we don’t have enough. Instead of making excuses, you need to start doing what you need to do to reinvent yourself into who you want to be.
Lastly, stop blaming other people, things, and everything else. You should even stop blaming yourself. For instance, if you tell yourself you would like to do something, but then blame how tired you are or how busy you are or how unprepared you are, then you are essentially blaming you for not doing what you want to do. If you think about that it is ridiculous. There’s only one of you, and you are either doing or you are not doing. So do what you need to do and you won’t feel the need to blame.
Step 2: Do More Of What The New You Does
This sounds so basic, but it is absolutely essential to reinventing yourself. For instance, if you want to reinvent yourself into a productive worker, then you have to act like a productive worker. Acting like a productive worker will help you feel like a productive worker, which will help you become a productive worker. That may mean getting up earlier, getting more organized, doing more work, or outsourcing duties.
It also means talking to yourself in a way the new you would talk to yourself. We covered this in step one. No more excuses or blaming because the new you wouldn’t use excuses or blaming, they would just be who they are.
This is really acting as if. Acting as if is already used by therapists to help clients change their behavior and way of acting. [Source: http://www.centroadleriano.org/publicaciones/Expanding.pdf] When you act as if, you feel as if.
– When you act as if you are upset, you feel as if you are upset.
– When you act as if you are strong, you feel as if you are strong.
– When you act as if you are a writer, you feel as if you are a writer.
So don’t wait to take on the role of the new you until you have reinvented yourself completely. Instead, take on the role of the new you now to help you become the reinvented you.
Since you are reading an article on how to reinvent yourself, I’m going to assume that there are a few traits that you also need to exhibit. This is because, for the most part, we don’t reinvent ourselves into someone worse than who we are. We want to reinvent ourselves and to someone who is better, more capable, stronger, and more true to themselves, and there are some very common traits of great people.
Therefore, some traits you need to really focus on and do more are:
– Courage: In order to become a different version of yourself. You have to be courageous. You can’t let fear hold you back from doing what you need to do or acting how you need to act. You can’t let other people make you feel bad for wanting to reinvent yourself (and I guarantee you that some people will try!) Hold your head up high and remind yourself of how brave you are as often as possible.
– Patience: Don’t get upset with yourself if you don’t fully feel like you are becoming you want to be. Reinventing yourself doesn’t happen overnight. It takes time to get comfortable in a new routine and in a new environment, and even if you are acting as if you are a great dancer, for example, you may not have the skill developed yet to actually be a great dancer. If you catch a glimpse of yourself in the mirror, then you may be quick to tell yourself that things are not working out and revert back to your old self. But it’s important to have patience and remember that you can reinvent yourself, and that will help you stick with it.
– Openness: Don’t become too rigid on what path you want to take on reinventing yourself. If you do, you won’t stay open to insights and lessons that help you tweak yourself into more of you want to become. Instead, you will get frustrated and annoyed and even upset when things don’t work out exactly how you plan, and that can cause you to revert quickly back to your old self and give up on reinventing yourself.
Step 3: Become An Expert In The New You
Ignorance has never been bliss. It doesn’t matter who you want to reinvent yourself into, it’s important to learn more about who you want to become.
For instance, if you want to learn how to reinvent yourself after a breakup, then you need to learn how to get through life independently. You need to learn how to do things alone, make plans alone, make decisions alone, and live alone. And you probably don’t know how to do that right now.
You can definitely act as if you are a strong individual on your own, and that will definitely help you feel like you are that person, but if you interact with people who are currently single, then you will gain insight into who you want to be and how to do it, which will allow you to tweak how you think and how you act so that you can become who you want to be.
Another tool that will help you become an expert in the new you is a vision board. Researchers have shown that people who can identify with who they want to become, make better decisions for themselves. When you can see visual images of who you want to become and how you want your life to become, you will constantly be reminded of why you are reinventing yourself. Moreover, seeing those images will help you start to feel like authority in that world, because we all are in authority in the world we see most often.
This Simple 3-Step Process Works
I want you to know that I’m speaking from experience. I tried all of the above and it really works.
For example, I used to be very sarcastic and negative. I viewed everything negatively through squinted eyes, and I thought I was cool for doing that. But, when I grew tired of feeling so down and upset all the time, I wanted to reinvent myself into a happy person. So, I committed to becoming happier! I talked to myself as if I was happier, I stopped making excuses for not being happy, I stop blaming other people for my unhappiness, and I took ownership over my life. I did things that the happy version of myself would do, and every single day I interacted with happy people and learned from them. All of that helped me reinvent myself into the happy person that I get to see in the mirror every morning.
Some people will tell you to change your habits and friends to reinvent yourself, and I totally agree with those things. Your habits and your relationships affect you are and can hold you back from reinventing yourself into who you want to be. However, by following the about three steps, you will naturally do these things.
For example, if you are acting as if, then you will naturally surround yourself with the right people and take on the right habits. If you are not making excuses or blaming other people, then you will naturally develop different habits and form different relationships, even with people you are already in a relationship with. And, of course, as you become an expert in the new you, you will tweak your habits and your social life as you learn more about how you want the new you to look and how to make that happen.