If you want to be happier in life, then you need to take a look at your attitude. Your attitude is everything when it comes to happiness. It is the one thing that will affect everything in your life and every area of your life. Therefore, it doesn’t matter where you want more happiness in life, taking a look at your attitude and tweaking it will help. Let’s take a look at how attitude affects your life and what you can do to develop a more positive attitude.
Your Attitude Will Always Tell People How You Really Feel About Them
The relationships you have will affect your happiness one way or the other. Work relationships affect your success, which affects your happiness. Personal relationships affect your mental well-being which affects your happiness. Casual relationships affect your day, which affects your happiness. And the relationship you have with yourself affects what you will or will not do, which affects your happiness.
You can tell someone that you are happy with them all you want, but your attitude will give away your true feelings. For instance, you can say all the right words, but your viewpoint on them will shine through the way you say the words, how many words you say, the way you stand, and through your facial and body language expressions. As John C. Maxwell said, “People may hear your words, but they will feel your attitude.”
Even if you are not face-to-face with people, your attitude tells them a lot. For instance, a friend of mine just had problems dealing with a company that focuses on glasses for the colorblind. The problem was that he needed some clarity on his purchase, but no matter how many emails or phone calls or social media messages he made, they wouldn’t respond to him. It didn’t matter that they said the customer comes first, it was apparent in their actions that their real attitude was that the money came first, and the customer’s concerns came second.
Obviously, your attitude will affect you if you are a business person who wants to gain clients, customers, and leads. If you are looking down on them, judging them, or feeling negatively towards them, it’s going to come through, and you are going to lose some business because of it.
But it goes beyond work relationships. If you are having a lot of problems with personal and casual relationships, then you may want to take a look at your attitude. Your attitude will affect every relationship you have, and it is a very likely cause for the unhappy relationships in your life. Even if you think you are hiding your true feelings about other people, they will come through, and those people will not like what they see.
And lastly, the relationship you have with yourself is affected by your attitude. If you think negatively about yourself, then you are going to treat yourself with disrespect, hate, anger, and judgment. How can you be happy when you are attacking yourself like that? You are going to sabotage your happiness at every turn.
Your Attitude Will Affect Your Work Life, Which Will Affect Your Happiness
According to Business Insider, 80% of people are unhappy with this jobs. Considering that they say the average person works about 90 thousand hours in their lifetime, this is a big problem for happiness! It means that 80% of people are spending 90 thousand hours feeling stressed out, upset, tired, bored, or unmotivated.
The fact is that since work is such a big part of your life, your work attitude is everything for happiness. So many people hate getting up in the morning, driving to work, engaging with their co-workers, doing their job, and then driving back home again. Then they think about how much they don’t like their job throughout the evening and as they fall asleep. In other words, their attitude towards work affects their morning, noon, evening, and night in a negative way. How can they be happy living like that?
Your job should be full of passion. It shouldn’t be something that drains you and makes you wish you could just stop working altogether. You should see it as a way to be creative, do what you were meant to do, help people, and really get yourself and your ideas out into the world. If you don’t view it like that, and, rather, hold the attitude that it is something you must do to pay the bills, your happiness will always be affected in a negative way.
Your Attitude Affects Your Character
If your attitude is negative, then that will have a big toll on your character. Eventually, your morals, your outlook on life, your mental processes, and your temperament will become negative. In short, the way you see the world eventually become the way you are.
Think of a negative old woman. Once, that woman was probably pretty happy. She probably laughed and had fun and did things in her life that were worthwhile. But, her attitude towards people started to become harsh. Her attitude towards life started to become dim and depressing. Her attitude towards herself started to become ugly and sad. She was unable to change her attitude and after years of trying to pretend to be happy, she finally let her attitude take over her character. Now she is her attitude. She is dim, depressing, ugly, and sad, and you along with everyone else just sees a negative old woman.
Who do you want to be five, ten, or twenty years from now? If you want to have strong morals, an outgoing personality, and a calm temperament, then you need to make sure you are developing an attitude conducive to those things.
Your Attitude Affects Your Habits
Your habits determine your mental, physical, and spiritual health, which ultimately determine your happiness. Not everyone realizes how important they are to your happiness.
If you are in the habit of doing healthy things, then you will probably be a healthy person. If you are in the habit of doing unhealthy things, then you will probably be an unhealthy person. If you are in the habit of blaming other people for your problems, then you will make a lot of enemies and never get anything in your life fixed (because you have to take ownership before you fix them). If you are in the habit of being late, then you are going to lose out on a lot of opportunities. On and on this list goes.
Your attitude is everything when it comes to what you are willing to make a habit in your life and what you are not willing to make a habit of. Habits include what you do on a daily basis. They also include how you habitually interact with the world.
For instance, if you are a single man, and you think that women are evil, then you could easily develop a habit of being rude and short with women. That’s not going to help you win them over. That’s just going to help you stay single. That can cause you to become bitter, give up on love, and deny yourself a relationship that increases the happiness in your life.
If you are having a hard time changing your habits, then you may want to look at your attitude. If you can’t add exercise into your life, for example, then take a look at your attitude towards exercise and yourself. You may find that your attitude is what is holding you back from developing a positive attitude, and one small shift in how you think could help you finally bring that positive habit into your life.
5 Suggestions To Develop A More Positive Attitude
So, as you can see, attitude is everything for your happiness. You will always have an attitude, so why not try to make it a more positive and beneficial one? Don’t get complacent in your life. Strive for more. Strive to see things differently. Strive to have a happier life!
1. Always See The Glass As Refillable
A lot of people try to decipher whether the glass is half full or half empty, but you don’t have to do that! Live in a state where you see the glass as always being refilled. When you believe that your glass is always refilling itself, you take on a new attitude towards a life where you believe that things are always working out for your benefit. You don’t dwell on the negative because you know that your glass is going to fill up again, and things are going to be much more beneficial in the future.
2. Live Consciously
Living consciously means taking control of your life. It means living your life purpose, being honest with yourself and others, recognizing your feelings and thoughts for what they are, and doing good things for yourself and others. It means being aware of the moment and how you impact it with your thoughts, feelings, and behaviors. It allows your attitude to be in a state of flow that allows you to be happier with everything.
Too many people are living unconsciously. They are not aware of their surroundings and how they impact them; instead, they are stuck in a state where they are being pulled left and right by everything and everyone but themselves. They are not taking control of their life, they are letting memories, unexpected events, and other people take control of their life.
You can live more consciously by being more mindful. Wake up! Use your senses. Stop zoning out in front of the TV, the computer, or your phone for hours every day. Pay attention to what is happening around you. Pay attention to how you are reacting to what is happening around you. Take control of how you react and choose thoughts and feelings that serve you well, not make you mad.
3. Have A Vision
Having a vision for your life allows you to jump into the living consciously seat. It allows you to make goals and do things that line up with your life purpose. It allows you to work through problems and do things that matter in life. And the more you do those things and see positive results from them, the more driven and positive your attitude becomes.
Don’t be someone who gets up and lives another boring day in your long list of boring days. Do what feels good. Do what gets you closer to where you want to be. Do what matters most to you. If you do, your attitude towards everything will be much more positive!
4. Make Learning A Priority
Learning helps you see things differently. That includes learning about other people’s culture, ideas, and beliefs, learning about things that you are curious about, and learning more about what you are passionate about. Learning is what helps you develop new ideas, thoughts, and feelings in life. And just one small insight can have a huge impact on your attitude and behavior.
People pay thousands of dollars to attend Tony Robbins’ Date With Destiny seminar. According to the Netflix documentary, they pay about $5,000. Why do they do that? Because they want to learn how they can get unstuck and change their life. A lot of the participants are depressed. A lot of them feel stuck in life. But all of them have one thing in common; they know that learning the right insight, technique, or tip could help them change their attitude and start living the life of their dreams.
If you feel sad, negative, or stuck, then it’s imperative to take on the desire to learn. The more you reach out and grow your knowledge, the more you will affect your attitude in a way that serves your happiness.
5. Don’t Take Things Personally
Lastly, when you live from a place of ego, your attitude towards everything will become negative. And one of the best ways to live in ego is to take things personally.
For instance, the friend I mentioned who was ignored by the colorblind glasses company could have taken things very personally. Because he saw the company interacting with other people while they were ignoring him, he could have decided that he is not worthy enough of being talked to. He could have decided that his face, age, or name was turning off the company. He could have gone a million different ways where he was the reason to blame. But, instead, he realized that it had more to do with them than it did him. He accepted that they were probably coming from a place of stress or anger or backward morals, and there was nothing he could do about it. Because of that, he was able to let go of his negativity and avoid getting stuck in a very negative place where his attitude was focused on anger and hate.
The best thing to do is realize that people do things based on their own attitude. If they have a positive attitude, then they are going to be kind, helpful, and respectful. If they have a negative attitude, then they are going to be rude, dismissive, and disrespectful. It has nothing to do with you and everything to do with them.