You know that there is someone amazing inside of you, but you don’t know how to access him or her. I get it. Life has a way of sucking you into being mediocre, and because so many people are uninspired in life, it can be hard to find a role model to help you get off the path of ordinary. But, if you are one of the people who want to unlock your potential and be someone much more than you are now, there are some things that you must do. These things will help you go forward despite your fears, get back up when you fall down, and move in the right direction towards your fullest potential.
1. Stop Buying Into The Brules
Vishen Lakhiani has a term for rules that are simply pure crap. He calls them brules – a combination of ‘bullshit’ and ‘rules’. There are so many brules that you could be buying into every day that are holding you back from unlocking your potential.
Brules are things that you have learned throughout your life from your parents, elders, peers, and society that simply aren’t true. Yet, some of them are so ingrained as ‘truth’, that they can become an obstacle that is too hard to overcome.
A lot of the brules we adopt stem from our desire to fit in. We want the people around us to like us. We want to do what other people think is right. So we adopt these rules – which aren’t actually concrete truths – and we follow them to keep the peace with everyone.
How can you recognize a brule? A brule isn’t something that has been proven to be true. A rule, on the other hand, is something that makes sense and is proven to be true.
For instance, a rule that you may want to follow is that you should not walk off a cliff. I think you and I can agree that’s a pretty good rule in life that makes a lot of sense.
A brule would be that you can’t choose what religion you want to be. That’s a bullshit rule. Of course you can choose! You have a mind that is capable of choosing. You can let go of certain beliefs and develop new ones. Therefore, you are perfectly capable of choosing what religion you want to follow. But, because everyone around you tells you that you can’t choose, you can easily believe that this brule is a rule of life.
Another brule would be that you can’t leave your abusive spouse. So many people stay stuck in a marriage that holds them back from their true potential because they believe they are incapable of living without that person. That’s just a brule that they have developed through their various areas, such as their fearful parent who believes that marriage is for life despite how bad it gets.
The bottom line is that brules will hold you back from doing what you need to do to unlock your potential. Therefore, you need to sit down and ask yourself whether the rules you are following in life are rules or brules. If they are brules, then stop buying into them.
Give yourself permission to see that there are many different ways of going through life. One rule, without no real reason to back it up, doesn’t apply to everyone in life. If it did, we wouldn’t have people reaching their potential and doing amazing things that other people firmly believe is impossible.
2. Make Education A Life Long Venture
There is no way around it. In order to unlock your potential, you have to grow as a person. You have to understand more about yourself and the things you want to do. And you need to understand how other people reached their potential so you can use their lessons to help you unlock your potential.
I’m talking, in part, about education. And no, you don’t have to go to school to learn what you need to learn. You can get online and research. You can take an online course. You can meet with people who are actively working towards their potential as well and learn from them.
It’s important to read as much as possible. Read online content. Read books. Read poetry. Read social media posts around a topic that you are interested in. The more you read, the more you expand your awareness and can see things from different points of view. And, the more you read, the more inspiration you will get on how to unlock your potential.
I have found that as I learn, I change. My habits and beliefs change. My perception on life changes. And those are huge things that help me see what I’m capable of and go after it.
I also highly recommend teaching. If you can get online and start a blog where you teach other people what you know, you will learn from them and their experiences. Even if you think you know all there is to know about a subject, you will often get insights into other people’s experiences and perceptions that challenge what you thought you knew. It’s a great way to learn.
Don’t know where to start? Go out right now and look at some magazines. You will be naturally drawn to things that you are interested in. You will naturally want to read more about what’s on the cover of something that grabs your attention. That topic is likely something that will help you start to unlock your potential, so allow yourself to read the magazine, even if you think it has nothing to do with who you are or who you want to become. You may be surprised at where it leads you!
3. Dig Into Your Subconscious Beliefs
In order to get what you want out of life, you have to create some intentions. Intentions can be things like making a certain amount of money or following your dream of being a YouTube star. But, most of us have subconscious beliefs that counteract those intentions and hold us back from the potential we think we may be capable of.
For instance, you may understand that there is a lot of potential on YouTube. You may not buy into the brules that say you need to work at a conventional job that provides security. But, in the back of your mind, you may not believe that you are worthy of an audience that appreciates you. In fact, you may believe that people will judge you as being stupid, ugly, not talented, or something else. That subconscious belief will hold you back from putting up your first video or putting enough effort into your YouTube business, and you will never unlock your potential on YouTube because of it.
How can you spot these subconscious beliefs? Pay attention to when you make excuses or blame something or someone. Often, excuses and blame are a way of expressing your doubts or fears and holding yourself back.
Moreover, pay attention to anything that you believe is a matter of fact, even though other people are clearly going against your belief. For instance, if you fully believe that you don’t have the right camera to be successful on YouTube, but you see other people finding success with their phones, then you need to recognize your subconscious belief around this subject is holding you back.
4. Listen To Your Most Honest Friends And Family
Sometimes your stubbornness may be holding you back from unlocking your full potential and you may not know it. This is when you need to do the unthinkable: willingly phone up your friend or family member who is way to honest and ask if they can tell you what they think you are doing wrong.
Keep in mind that they are governed by brules and limiting beliefs that you are not governed by. Recognize those brules and limiting beliefs when they appear and acknowledge that those things are just a part of who they are. Then, listen for some simple truths that appear between the brules and the limiting beliefs. And, allow yourself to really hear them without getting defensive or upset.
For instance, if you ask your Aunt Annie why you never became a dancer, she will give you a bunch of excuses like ‘dancing isn’t a real career’. But, she may also point out that you never had the drive to practice every day like your instructor told you to do. This may be a good indication that your inability to commit to practicing has held you back and, if you still want to be a dancer, you may need to find a way to embrace daily practice into your routine.
Be prepared to hear some things that hurt, such as:
– You are not smart enough.
– You are too innocent or naive.
– You are too weak.
All of those things may be true, but not something you want to hear. The truth really does hurt. But, if you are willing to move past the hurt, and embrace the fact that these truths could help you understand what you are doing wrong and help move you towards your potential, then it is worth listening to.
Remember, you are not defined by what people say about you. Their observations of you are limited to what they have seen or heard. Your potential is within you, and you have the ability to change your ‘now’ and your future in a way that moves you towards it.
5. Get Experiences Under Your Belt
Try things out. You can’t unlock your potential unless you get experiences under your belt and understand more about who you are, what you are capable of, and how strong you are.
For instance, if you want to an actor, you have to go out and take acting classes or try out for parts. You have to take action and put yourself out there. As you do so, you will learn things about yourself and the direction you should go. And you will learn what your strengths and weaknesses are, which will help you work on your weaknesses or simply embrace your strengths.
Some people will advocate that in order to unlock your potential you should avoid learning from books, articles, stories, or courses, and just focus solely on taking action. I don’t advise that if you truly want to unlock your potential. You can’t know what you don’t experience unless you read about it. Through learning, you can learn from other people’s experiences and boycott having to experience it for yourself.
6. Don’t Accept Anyone’s Low Opinion Of You
It’s amazing how one low judgment from a stranger can stop us from doing what we need to do in life. They can make us think we are not worthy of achieving the success we want. They can make us think we don’t have the abilities that will get us to where we want to get. But, we hardly ever stop to think, “How do they know?” We just assume that they can see it in us somehow.
Remember, no one knows YOU like you do. Nobody gets 24-hour access to your thoughts, actions, and dreams. Nobody sees what you understand. Nobody sees how your mind works and how talented you truly are. They make judgments based on the limited things they see combined with their limiting beliefs and fears. In other words, their judgments don’t even come close to reality in your world.
You will never unlock your potential if you let other people’s low opinions of you hold you back. Therefore, there are a few things you can do.
First, create a force field around you of white and loving light and, instead of taking things to heart, let people’s judgments and opinions blend in with the white and loving light that surrounds you and then get on with your day. This may sound weird at first if you’ve never done it before, but if you consistently practice surrounding yourself with a white and loving energy, you will find that your energy becomes quite powerful and real – and it is. Energy is everyone and everything, and we can protect ourselves from other people’s energy (words, thoughts, judgments, etc.) by using our own energy (the white light force field) to keep them out.
And, if you are not keen on the whole energy thing, then try this: Thank them for telling you how they feel, because that’s all that they are doing. They are not giving you some almighty truth about yourself. They are just telling you their thoughts, beliefs, and fears; in other words, how they feel. If you thank them for giving you insight into themselves, then you can stop internalizing their words or actions because it will have more to do with them than you.