There is a quote by Farrah Gray that really hits home on this topic. “Build your own dreams, or someone else will hire you to build theirs.” Now, he’s referring to business, but we can take this simple truth a step further and say that if you don’t follow your dreams, you will be helping other people by buying into what they want you to buy into and living a life based around what they want you to do.
If you don’t follow your dreams, you will be pulled back-and-forth between other people’s dreams. In health, you will be told what you should look like and what you should be doing, not following what your body tells you that you should be doing. In a relationship, you will settle for a relationship that you are told you are supposed to have, not experience a relationship of your dreams. If you don’t have your own plan laid out in every area of your life, then you are going to follow someone else’s plan!
You have the power to follow your own plan in life. Why live your life for someone else? They already got their own life to live!
Do You Need To Follow Your Dreams To Be Happy?
You can follow other people’s dreams to make them happy and still maintain some level of happiness. By pleasing other people, you will get a high that comes from their approval, and that will make you feel motivated as you go after their dreams and good as you accomplish them. However, you won’t feel satisfied.
When you are living life for someone else, you are not listening to your internal calling. Since we are all different in what we want out of life, this means you will not be living the life that will truly make you feel fulfilled.
And if you are doing nothing at all, living day by day being pulled wherever the loudest voice or need calls you, then you will not be happy. You will be confused, purposeless, and longing for something. You will likely work at a job you hate. You will be unsatisfied with your health. Your relationships will be affected negatively. And, you will feel a hole in your life that is screaming for something more.
Therefore, to be truly happy in life, you do need to follow your dreams. You need to figure out what you want and what is possible for you and then let your dreams guide you through your daily life.
What Are Your Realistic Dreams?
When people hear that they need to follow their dreams, they think that they have to change the world, but that’s not true. If you try to grasp for something that you don’t want, then you are not going after realistic dreams; instead, you are going after dreams that help you prove something to yourself or others.
The chances are good that if you go after something too big that you don’t want, you won’t get it. Your motivation won’t be there. You won’t be committed. And it may be too far out of your skill set to get.
Unless you want to be a rocket scientist or become the best motivational speaker in the world, you don’t need to make those your dreams. Raising a happy family, running a successful business, improving yourself one day at a time, and living by the ocean are all realistic dreams that you can go after. It all depends on what you want to achieve.
Sit down and decide what you want most out of life. If you feel that something you want is too small, ask yourself why you feel that. Is it because other people say that it’s too small or is it because you believe it is not living up to your potential? If you feel it is about other people, remember that your dreams are perfect for you, no matter what size they are. You know what’s best for you, so trust yourself enough to give you the answers you need.
9 Reasons To Follow Your Dreams
Not sure you should go after the things you want most? Following are 9 reasons that you should, starting today.
1. It Makes Life Worth Living
When you go after your highest potential, there is a reason to get out of bed each day. You feel good about life and what you are doing, and you feel like you are living with a purpose, not just floating around waiting for the next thing to happen to you. That type of feeling is amazing, and life becomes so much more important when you have it.
2. Your Life Gets Interesting
When you start to follow your dreams, you get up and take action. You get out more. You reach out to people more. You do things that you have never done before. New experiences come into your life often, and life gets really interesting. When you do nothing every day, nothing new happens and life can get pretty boring! Living the life of your dreams is an adventure each day. As Oprah says, “The biggest adventure you can take is to live the life of your dreams.”
3. It Gives You Control Of Your Life
You take the control back and do what matters most. Nobody gets to control you anymore because you know what you want and how you are going to start getting it, and that means you make your own decisions and schedule your own time. Having power over your life is – well, empowering! It is the one thing that you can set rules for and have complete control over.
When you feel powerful like that, you feel more willing to take chances in life and act on what you want, which helps you get more control over your life. It’s like a continuous cycle of taking charge of your life and getting what you want.
4. You Become Free
When you take control of your life and do what you want to do, you become free. You are not held back by other people or by fear. You are free to do what you want to do and move in the direction that you want to move in. You may think that you have a lot of freedom right now, but when you follow your dreams, you will know what it is like to be truly free in life.
5. You Will Be Respected
Some people may try to stop you from following your dreams because they are scared for you. They don’t want you to fail or to get hurt because they believe that’s what will happen, but when you start to accomplish things in your life, you will earn their respect. In fact, you may even influence other people to go after their dreams, which is the ultimate gift you can give anyone in your life. And, you will definitely change stranger’s lives as they watch you achieve the dreams you are going after. You will inspire and motivate, and even help them go after what they want most.
6. You Have More Fun In Life
Life is much more fun when you follow your dreams. You laugh more. You get excited more. You enjoy what you are doing throughout your day and look forward to what is to come tomorrow. If you feel like the fun has been drained out of your life, then start following your dreams.
7. Your Awareness Opens Up
When you are going after things you want, you have to get real with yourself. You have to live in the moment, recognize what is not working and what is, and then switch things up to make your dreams come true. All of that results in one great thing – your awareness opens up. You start to notice things you’ve never noticed before. You start to hear and sense things that you’ve never heard or felt. When your awareness is closed, you can walk right by someone or something that could change your life – never knowing that it existed. But when you are awareness is open, you are always looking for the things that can change your life, and you will be able to see them.
8. You Will Feel Like A Winner
Anyone who goes after their dreams feels like a winner. Even if they fail, they still feel like a winner because they are able to push themselves and try, which boosts their self-confidence. Moreover, failure teaches you what not to do so that you can do better next time, which further makes you feel like a winner. The more you know what not to do, the more you narrow in on what you need to do, and that improves your chances of achieving what you want.
9. You Get To Use Your Talents
Your dreams will somehow align with the talents you already have. Yes, you will want to learn some new skills in life, but chances are your inner passion is in line with the things you are naturally good at, and when you start to use those natural talents, life gets really rewarding.
In addition, you can use your talents to help you get what you want in life, even if it is not conventional for your talents. For example, your ability to listen could help you become the best writer in the world by conveying what people are really thinking!
If you don’t believe that your talents will help you achieve the dreams you have, then watch the most successful people on YouTube. You will see that they are using their talents in every video, and that is what helps them achieve their goals in life.
Doing what you do best feels great and keeps you in the flow. Your talent may be talking, listening, writing, dancing, critical thinking, humor, intuition, self-discipline, or anything else, but it will help you follow your dreams.
The 4 Keys To Start Following Your Dreams Today
1. Figure Out What You Want
You can’t go after your dreams if you don’t know what they are. Take a day or two to sit down and discover who you are and what you want most out of life. Turn all distractions off, sit down in your favorite relaxing spot, stare out the window or at the wall and let your mind run wild, and write down everything that comes to mind. Be honest. Don’t hold anything back! When you are done, you will have a clearer vision of who you are and who you want to be.
2. Take Action
If you want to follow your dreams, you have to start to take action. If you don’t, you will never go anywhere in life. Action means doing something, big or small. It means getting up and deciding to just do something about what you want. It means putting down the remote and doing something that actually gets you closer to your dreams. It means pushing past the fear, laziness, and resistance, and just doing it. There is no easy way to take action. There is no hack for it. You just have to decide to do it and then force yourself to do it day after day.
3. Accept That Mistakes Are Crucial To Follow Your Dreams
There will be mistakes made along the way, and you have to learn from them. If you keep making the same mistakes over and over again because you don’t want to accept that you made mistakes, you will never reach your dreams. Every time a mistake happens – every time you fail, sit down and write down a lesson you learned from it, and then move forward determined not to make the same mistake twice. That will help you adjust your action in life and move closer to your dreams each day.
4. Don’t Try To Do It Yourself
They are your dreams, but if you try to do it yourself, you will get lonely, feel unmotivated, and talk yourself out of succeeding. You can be your own worst enemy, which is why you need to sign up someone else to help you on your journey to follow your dreams. This can be a friend, a family member, a partner, a forum full of like-minded people, or even something more spiritual. The point is you need to connect to someone or something that helps you feel as if your back is covered and that you are being cheered for along every step of the way. When you feel supported and encouraged, you will keep taking action on the life you want.